Conflicts will happen. The love you have for each other should melt that away in time.

I had a nice visit with my daughter this morning before leaving for work. She just came by to say hello on her way to run some errands. Those good bye for now hugs are the best hugs. The kind of hug that lets you know you're loved very much.

Strangely enough I’m in a conflict with my parent as well. She swore at me for the first time EVER.

Did she call you a cunt?

:( I can imagine a detail like that hits extra hard
But if course this is true, and really sweet

Anyone else relate to getting older and beginning to parent your parent?

She dropped a “whatever, I’ll do it my f*cking self” on me, frustrated that I would not accommodate a last minute schedule change. I feel like the longer I know her the more I see a scared, wide eyed child who’s never had the self esteem to reflect on their own culpability in the undesirable circumstances in which she finds herself. She disrespects and crosses my boundaries constantly, but I don’t think she even has the capacity to understand that establishing boundaries in the first place is not punitive.

yeah I parent my mom more the older I get, although she's not doing anything problematic. And on the one hand it's nice to be able to interact with your parent like mature equals, but I do find it difficult sometimes that with that maturity I notice my mom's frailties and such. I miss the feeling I had as a kid that she was basically a kind of Wonder Woman who could easily do anything.
I feel like I've experienced similar boundary crossings in friendships. It sucks when there's an issue like that and you don't feel like the other person would understand or take it well if you'd try to work it out with them

My situation is even more complicated by the fact that I’ve only really known my mom for the past ten years — I was kept from her as a child and we didn’t reunite until I was 18 and she found me on MySpace. She experienced a tremendous amount of trauma after having me at 16 and it’s apparent now that she never really matured past that period in time. She has been victimized so many times that being a victim is the only role she knows, but the major change has been that where before she had this identity of “selfless mom that everyone loves but who is romantically lonely,” to “I have a boyfriend for the first time in 20 years and none of my family understands why I’d choose this particular sketchy af man but I’m going to keep choosing him over myself and my children and my family because I don’t want to be lonely anymore.” Any discussions we try to have with her end in “you just don’t want me to be happy.”

I moved in with them after leaving my ex because it was the best option, and I knew I would end up regretting it, because I knew I’d see things I didn’t like, and now I just feel disgusted and disappointed in her for not wanting better for herself. Can’t even be mad at Dude, he’s not coercing her into attending to his every need, in fact he views it as pretty pathetic. It’s just the dynamic that she has created.

umm the usual ....

sorry.

So are you over at Waterloo or Ear or somewhere else?
Did you completely ditch the 7-11®?