A Card for Chiomara

Key · 02-01-2018, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

I'd certainly like to send her a card, but would think the idea of getting one from all of us would be better than individual cards. Kind of like when you get a birthday card at work? Nice to see everyone's name on it. This thread was set up (obviously) with that basic idea in mind, so for me, yeah, if anyone wants to write a message and then PM it to Ki and he can write and send the card.

I'd also like to say this is a very kind, thoughtful and generous idea of Ki's. I give him ****, like we all do, but he has to be praised for this idea. Also considering he's only recently returned and probably doesn't know Chio online as well as some of us do, that's doubly impressive. Well done, Ki, and if people decide one card, many messages I'll send you mine. If not, I'll send you a separate message you can put in a single card. If you need money sent on let me know.

Chio and I have actually gotten really close in the last year, even before either of our hiatus's. So this is more of an extension of that and I wanted to allow people to use that as a positive resource. Money is not an issue. I've saved enough in the past couple years that I don't ever worry. So, no worries on that.

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Originally Posted by rubber soul

I think the single card idea is better too. It's probably more economical (I'm pretty much penniless) and it gets a lot of us together at the same time. Maybe Troll can write up something like, 'we're thinking of you', and we can all virtually sign off on it. Heck, just seeing this thread ought to cheer her up knowing we were thinking of her. (Which we are, Chiomara

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As of this morning, she's been doing the best she can. Says she's feeling restless etc which is natural in this type of scenario. She has said she's love for you guys to be updated, so I'm doing the best I can in that regard as I've known her long enough to where I feel it's ok to do so. And she said I could so...yeah.

She also says she'll probably be back here sooner rather than later as she would prefer to have something to keep her mind off of things. So, when she does come back, I would hope you guys would just comfort her as much as possible. She certainly needs it right now and any bit of that would count. Which is again, another reason for me to want to send her some letters.

**Janszoon** · 02-01-2018, 08:27 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this news, Chiomara. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I'm happy to join in whatever group thing we're doing.

Key · 02-01-2018, 10:08 AM

^I'll be happy to include you in it as well, Janz. But yeah, just pm what you guys would want me to say and I'll send them off once that's done. There's no time limit. Take as long as you need to. The offer will stay on the table.

Akai · 02-01-2018, 12:48 PM

You should send her one big one that we all sign so you don't have to pay a load of cash in postage.

It's a pretty generous offer to use your own time to help everyone get their messages across as it is.

Chiomara · 02-01-2018, 03:48 PM

Thanks everyone; you're all very sweet. I really do appreciate the gesture, TH <3 (though I really don't think I'm worth all of this fuss because I'm surely not the only one who has endured a great loss recently) hopefully it's not too gauche to post in my own card thingie. I really was planning on taking a break from all my usual internet haunts, but I'm plagued with the most terrible boredom and restlessness-- my family is very weird and private, they all prefer to mourn alone, so I've been cooped up here in my motel with just my laptop and some books/comics while I wait for the memorial service. Lots of time to kill. I was a total wreck a few days ago but I am functioning okay now (in part thanks to my excellent emotional compartmentalization+suppression abilities). Those few days in the hospital felt like an eternity. Anyway, I'm pretty much done publicly talking about death and my brother and whatnot for the time being and I'm well enough to waste time on the internet (I break down in the shower and at the grocery store like a normal person) so no one needs to worry too much. I mean, I am still a wreck, I lost a huge part of my life and it hasn't really sunken in yet-- but wallowing never helps me, and I can't put my life on hold right now if I'm going to move to North Carolina by this fall like I've been wanting. I need some illusion of normalcy.

Thanks again everyone for all the kind words, especially Kii with his nice card/letter idea. Everyone knows I'm a slut for snail mail. I don't want anyone to feel obligated to do anything like that though (after all, I mean, I haven't directly interacted with most of you since I mostly just make useless posts in the Lounge and plug) especially since I'm back here posting now.

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

Let's face it: everyone likes her,

This is an awfully ambitious statement.
(And TH, I thought of you now and then while in the hospital, as I know you've been a caretaker for a long time too-- much longer than me-- so I know if anyone could empathize it's you. And your sister is incredibly lucky to have you I'm sure.)

Akai · 02-01-2018, 03:59 PM

Fair play Chio, reasonable statement, peace.

OccultHawk · 02-01-2018, 04:16 PM

Welcome back Chi!

The Batlord · 02-01-2018, 04:53 PM

... ... ... What comics?

Trollheart · 02-01-2018, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Chiomara

Thanks everyone; you're all very sweet. I really do appreciate the gesture, TH <3 (though I really don't think I'm worth all of this fuss because I'm surely not the only one who has endured a great loss recently) hopefully it's not too gauche to post in my own card thingie.
Thanks again everyone for all the kind words, especially Kii with his nice card/letter idea. Everyone knows I'm a slut for snail mail. I don't want anyone to feel obligated to do anything like that though (after all, I mean, I haven't directly interacted with most of you since I mostly just make useless posts in the Lounge and plug) especially since I'm back here posting now.

Perhaps you don't realise how much you mean to everyone here. I've been here for over seven years now and even though everyone knows me, should something horrible happen to me (fingers doubly crossed that it doesn't) I'm not quite sure I'd elicit the outpouring of support and genuine emotion you have engendered here. You're totally special.

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This is an awfully ambitious statement.

I'll fight anyone who says otherwise.

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(And TH, I thought of you now and then while in the hospital, as I know you've been a caretaker for a long time too-- much longer than me-- so I know if anyone could empathize it's you. And your sister is incredibly lucky to have you I'm sure.)

Thanks Chio. I've been through two deaths last year - one, my aunt who was like a second mother to me, the other one of my three cats. Not sure which hurt more. But I doubt my grief could come close to matching yours. Nevertheless, if thinking of me helped you in any way, then I'm glad.

Great to have you back. I'm sure I speak for everyone here.

Chiomara · 02-01-2018, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

... ... ... What comics?

Miracleman, binch (I can finally actually read it now; after I first got it a while back my nephew immediately stole it from me)

And also everything on this flash drive my friend just gave me:

and also The Fadeout, The Fix, The Wicked + The Divine, and Throwaways.

which ones should I read first?

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

Perhaps you don't realise how much you mean to everyone here. I've been here for over seven years now and even though everyone knows me, should something horrible happen to me (fingers doubly crossed that it doesn't) I'm not quite sure I'd elicit the outpouring of support and genuine emotion you have engendered here. You're totally special.

I'll fight anyone who says otherwise.

Guess I'll have to square up then! I have no upper body strength whatsoever but I DO have long nails.

(thank you though, I'll try to take your word for it

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

Thanks Chio. I've been through two deaths last year - one, my aunt who was like a second mother to me, the other one of my three cats. Not sure which hurt more. But I doubt my grief could come close to matching yours. Nevertheless, if thinking of me helped you in any way, then I'm glad.

Great to have you back. I'm sure I speak for everyone here.

Losing a kitty is terrible. Well, and aunts too of course :c But it's impossible to compare these things since each death is like an entirely different and unique beast in terms of how severely (or quickly or slowly) it rips into us. I definitely thought I'd be over the death of my cats, for instance, but nope!

02-01-2018, 08:27 AM	#52 (permalink)
Janszoon Mate, Spawn & Die Join Date: May 2007 Location: The Rapping Community Posts: 24,593	I'm so sorry to hear this news, Chiomara. My thoughts are with you and your family. I'm happy to join in whatever group thing we're doing. __________________ A Night in the Life of the Invisible Man Time & Place 25 Albums You Should Hear Before the Moon Crashes into the Earth and We All Die last.fm

02-01-2018, 12:48 PM	#54 (permalink)
Akai Godless Ape Join Date: Mar 2017 Location: Britannia Posts: 1,255	You should send her one big one that we all sign so you don't have to pay a load of cash in postage. It's a pretty generous offer to use your own time to help everyone get their messages across as it is. __________________ ''To be honest, in my opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter from a different perspective and by considering each and every one's valid opinion, I do believe that I forgot what I was going to say.'' S p o t i f y

02-01-2018, 03:59 PM	#56 (permalink)
Akai Godless Ape Join Date: Mar 2017 Location: Britannia Posts: 1,255	Fair play Chio, reasonable statement, peace. __________________ ''To be honest, in my opinion, of course without offending anyone who thinks differently from my point of view, but also by looking into this matter from a different perspective and by considering each and every one's valid opinion, I do believe that I forgot what I was going to say.'' S p o t i f y

02-01-2018, 04:16 PM	#57 (permalink)
OccultHawk one-balled nipple jockey Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Dirty Souf Biatch Posts: 22,033	Welcome back Chi! __________________ 2016 2017 2018 2019 2020 Member of the Year & Journal of the Year Champion Behold the Writing of THE LEGEND: https://www.musicbanter.com/members-...p-lighter.html

02-01-2018, 10:08 AM	#53 (permalink)
Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	^I'll be happy to include you in it as well, Janz. But yeah, just pm what you guys would want me to say and I'll send them off once that's done. There's no time limit. Take as long as you need to. The offer will stay on the table.