Official Mental Health Thread

DwnWthVwls · 01-17-2020, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Exo

Man I am like fully embedded in the doldrums of winter right now. Nothing is bright and happy for me. I've been sick and so has Dana but we're supposed to be enjoying our new place together and I just can't seem to shake this empty feeling. It has nothing to do with her or the place. I'm like this mostly at work or in the car. Just an overwhelming feeling of emptiness and blah. I'm assuming it's just because it's the dead of winter but I'm starting to freak Dana out and I don't want her getting upset because I occasionally go through bouts of feeling nothing for a bit.

Sounds like you need a new avatar. What town did you move to?

**Exo** · 01-17-2020, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Sounds like you need a new avatar. What town did you move to?

I'm in Montclair now.

**Marie Monday** · 01-17-2020, 04:55 PM

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I'm assuming it's just because it's the dead of winter but I'm starting to freak Dana out and I don't want her getting upset because I occasionally go through bouts of feeling nothing for a bit.

I agree that you maybe should talk to her. This advice is totally based on personal experience, but I just broke up with my girlfriend and the reason it didn't work out was partly because I didn't talk about my difficult feelings. I didn't talk because I didn't want to hurt her, but in the end it only hurt her more because of course she knew something was up

**Exo** · 01-17-2020, 04:58 PM

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Originally Posted by WWWP

Congrats, btw!

Thanks. =)

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Awesome, thats a great area.

I've been here the last year actually. We got a place down the road from my place now.

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I agree that you maybe should talk to her. This advice is totally based on personal experience, but I just broke up with my girlfriend and the reason it didn't work out was partly because I didn't talk about my difficult feelings. I didn't talk because I didn't want to hurt her, but in the end it only hurt her more because of course she knew something was up

We talk about everything. She's made very aware of my internal struggles and I'm aware of hers.

**Marie Monday** · 01-17-2020, 05:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Exo

We talk about everything. She's made very aware of my internal struggles and I'm aware of hers.

Thats good

WWWP · 01-17-2020, 11:06 AM

Communication is key in these situations, but there is also an element of "fake it til you make it" when trying to snap out of it. It's so hard for partners when all they want to do is help but you cant even articulate what you feel/need, make sure you're reinforcing to her that it's an internal struggle, and that you appreciate her being there and ready to help. Try not to isolate, keep your normal routine up, take her up on her offers to help. We often resist burdening our loved ones our ****, because we don't want to be overwhelm them, but the truth is us depressards are very mistrustful of others being able to carry that weight. Sometimes you gotta trust fall and let them show you they're there to catch you. Sorry I'm on a lot of sudafed.

**Exo** · 01-17-2020, 11:09 AM

Guys, you're wonderful, thank you, but I'm not talking about my relationship with Dana. We're great, lol. The only reason I brought her up was that we just moved so it's supposed to be a fun time for us but this thing I'm going through is preventing me from enjoying it to the fullest.

This is all about the Exo. It's an internal thing. I actually feel better around her so her involvement is the positive of all this. The rest of the world is sh*t.

WWWP · 01-17-2020, 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Exo

Guys, you're wonderful, thank you, but I'm not talking about my relationship with Dana. We're great, lol. The only reason I brought her up was that we just moved so it's supposed to be a fun time for us but this thing I'm going through is preventing me from enjoying it to the fullest.

This is all about the Exo. It's an internal thing. I actually feel better around her so her involvement is the positive of all this. The rest of the world is sh*t.

My point was more about how to care for our partners when we're going through it. That's why I said it's important to keep reinforcing to her that it's an internal thing, and that she makes you feel better.

**Exo** · 01-17-2020, 11:50 AM

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My point was more about how to care for our partners when we're going through it. That's why I said it's important to keep reinforcing to her that it's an internal thing, and that she makes you feel better.

Ahhh, gotcha. I thought I miscommunicated that we weren't going through a thing because of it.

OccultHawk · 01-17-2020, 11:11 AM

Sorry you’re feeling down Exo. Is there any way you could afford a vacation?

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