Originally Posted by misspoptart (Post 1344114)

Honestly I don't have much left to say about the topic. It seems like those who have chosen to comment on my posts are really more interested in bashing men who they consider to be below them because they made the mistake of misreading a woman's social cues. Also how any of you can claim to know more about it...unless you've been raped or have raped... I think you're just playing the holier-than-thou card. Yep... I am a dumb slut and he was a complete criminal. Is that what you want me to say? :eyeroll:

Originally Posted by Fluffy Kittens (Post 1344119)

Not having a go but how did you come to that conclusion? 'Usually' the victim's fault?

Anyway seeing as we were discussing rights to anonymity earlier in the thread, this seems a good a place to post as any. Manchester Evening News are at it again:

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This lad's reputation is now fucked forever guilty or not.

According to one prominent feminist piece of shit who I can't be arsed Googling at the minute this will do him good because she reckons men benefit from being falsely accused of rape. (That's if it is false.)

Originally Posted by 216 (Post 1344126)

god i hate feminists. head on over to reddit's /srs section to find complete idiots like that. they dont want equality.

anyways with poptarts situation i think i am understanding better than some people. ive been in situations like that. if you go home with a girl it kinda expected you are gonna get laid. i would be lying if i said i hadnt tried to persuade a girl from having sex in similar situations. if she outright says no thats one thing but if she gives you the 'im not sure' vibe but is still kissing you, then you **** her without explicit consent then you're technically a rapist and i dont think thats worthy of ike 25 yrs in prison

Originally Posted by #000000 (Post 1344214)

(Link snipped because otherwise it won't let me post.)

In some jurisdictions if you're a suspect in a serious crime, law enforcement will try to find you by any means. We don't know what's going on behind-the-scenes but I believe that they usually only divulge names or pictures if they can't find the person through any other means like finding them at home or asking their family and friends.

Originally Posted by Fluffy Kittens (Post 1344318)

Like you say, we don't know what's going on but for the MEN to print his picture without knowing the full truth is just irresponsible.

They obviously know it too, because they've taken the picture down now. :rolleyes:

Good posts btw & welcome to the board. :)



Hard to argue with any of this, particularly agree w/ the bit in bold.

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1344320)

If she's giving you the idk sign it depends on how drunk you are because you will just go for it anyways. The more drunk/horny you are is what will determine how you perceive the whole "idk" point.

Originally Posted by #000000 (Post 1344605)

Yeah, I get where you're coming from but it's when it comes to serious crimes, law enforcement has to make difficult decisions. If a suspect has skipped town or mysteriously disappeared before you could get a name and picture, do you just let him go? Or do you try by any means you can to find him so you can proceed with the investigation?

It's an even more difficult choice because most of the time when it happens and it's that important to find people it's usually in serious crimes like rape or murder. Which means that if the person is innocent their reputation will be damaged but sometimes there isn't much choice.

I don't know about this specific case and jurisdiction but I know that many will only divulge names and information about people if they're officially suspects/people of interest with enough to tie them to the case. If it turns out they're innocent that sucks but what if they aren't and you're just letting someone go? It's difficult.

Maybe the guy ended up being cleared or else they found out some other way of tracking him down. It's freaky to think of a situation like that but I can also see the point behind it, if this makes sense.

Thanks :)





Then... what about not going for it anyways? I don't know, I'm prone to getting drunk and horny myself but if my partner is giving those vibes then I just stop and call it a day. As to not perceiving it, maybe it's why clear communication with a sexual partner is important. Even if it's just a one-night stand, I try to make sure they know they can safely back out without getting insulted or forced into anything they don't want to do.

Originally Posted by Vanilla (Post 1344619)

You sound like a really switched on and intelligent guy. I am definitely going to keep an eye out for your posts. How long have you been with your partner?

Originally Posted by #000000 (Post 1344605)

Then... what about not going for it anyways? I don't know, I'm prone to getting drunk and horny myself but if my partner is giving those vibes then I just stop and call it a day. As to not perceiving it, maybe it's why clear communication with a sexual partner is important. Even if it's just a one-night stand, I try to make sure they know they can safely back out without getting insulted or forced into anything they don't want to do.

Originally Posted by djchameleon (Post 1344657)

It is easy to say that now while you are sober and your judgement isn't impaired by alcohol.