I'm not overly gregarious (unless I'm blazing drunk), but people seem to like something about my demeanour. Plus I tend to remember details about people which seems to work as a kind of accidental flattery because they think I've been paying them extra attention.

Having 6 close friends means you're gregarious, just the amount of time you have to spend to maintain those friendships means you like spending time with people. People like me too, but they give up on me after the gazzilionth time of asking me to go out or for a cup of coffe.

You should go for the coffee. Coffee is great!

Coffee is great, but after every such date, I feel like I've been digging canals the entire day...human interaction drains all energy out of me.

Who the hell are these friends then, that tire you out so much? I don't really understand how people get socially or mentally tired so I'll take it from you that its a valid reason. I guess it isn't just these friends that wear you out, but people in general.

^^ Is exactly the reason I am single, can only count 3 maybe four friends, and dont get out much...

True, talking for more than an hour straight is very exhausting for me physically and mentally...especially if the converstion isn't flowing naturally.

about 5-7, i say that because there are time whenm i feel i can't count certain people as friends.., if you know what i mean, like one of then nly wants me around to seelok like part of the penut gallery or because she knows i have a hard time saying no to things like cooking for parties or helping do something, mainly because i need to get out of the house, generally everybody calls me to see if i feel like socializing, and i use to bee very anti social up to a few years ago

adidasss I'm almost in the same situation. Even if I seem to be a very open person, I am not. I work at a radio station and make a lot of contacts, but I just don't have too many close friends. I do get along great with my BF and he's my best friend too. He is the only I like to socialize to. And it seems like we're both loners. I also spend a lot of time online and that could explain a bit the fact I kinda became a recluse. I am not antisocial, I have good some good speaking and public skills, but lately I just hate the fuss :D

I have a pretty large peer group and I don't feel like it is work to keep them up. My best friend and I went almost a year without getting together and when we finally did it was like we had just seen each other yesterday, this is the way most of my friendships are and I don't really find it taxing at all. The only time I find it an annoyance is if one of them is getting married and wants me in the wedding party or when one of them has a baby, then unfair pressure is applied to get together. Overall it isn't a big issue at my age, everyone is pretty busy with their own lives and understands that I am busy with mine