Haha, sorry. Didn't think to click it :D we're both virgins so I can't be like "Let's have sex" but I might drop some hints in the future. I hope it works out, i think we'd be great together.

jesus christ james she's trying to give you keys to the jet ski's, DO YOU NOT WANT TO RIDE THE FUCKIN WAVES??

you gotta be flirty back, dont be so nervous about it, you shoulda said something like 'if you insist' and pulled down your zipper a little bit like you were gonna whip it out. just have fun with moments like that, they aren't serious, just make everything a joke and go along with stuff like that. if shes joking around like that it cant be a bad thing for you. just be sarcastic and funny and throw those wavelengths back her way sometimes

Nah, don't go for 'let's have sex', just go for 'care to bake pancakes with me this evening?' or anything not suggestive :D.

Anyway, I think it's definitely safe to say she's interested in 'that way' in you.

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I'm gonna make a move for sure, just when, where and how is the thing.

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Guys I think he maybe a lil torn here in all fairness. You got Sk linking him to his friend zone personal journal of "gone with the wind..the Sk approach" Then Dirty telling him to unzip his pants...poor guy.

F*cking pancakes? Really man? Has that actually worked for you?

Yes! This is very true! They're like opposites!

Hahaha, well all he asked was how to tell a girl what he felt.
He didn't ask 'how do I get a girl to have sex with me'.
I mean, even I would to the dirty approach in that situation :D.
My idea works when you're in a conversation anyway, obviously :D.

exactly that's why I said it ultimately comes down to you and how you feel at the moment.

Yes, it's nice to hear advice from others but you should go with your gut feeling and just do what feels right.

Things that work for others might not work for you and vice versa.

james do not listen to s_k, this man will lead you down a 10 year road of hugs and i will lead you to a wonderful life of great sex and a wonderful family with this girl

im seriously just saying dont take it real serious and be loose with it and joke back when stuff like that happens

I don't know James, this guys already talking families and ****. I would have definitely gone down the whip it out road myself, she clearly was telling you make a move and stop dancing around my vagina. Lay it out for her, tell her you wanna spend the night with her vagina and get it over with.

In all fairness James, it does sound like she digs you that way. Just ask her out, man.

I will, after her exams are over I guess. Just cautious, I don't want to lose her as a friend.

Cautious is no way to go through life. You'll look back on many things with regret. Your friendship really wasn't that strong if it couldn't handle natural feelings that happen between a man and a woman. You guess? Do it today. Call her up and just do it. Your making it too hard with the I guess's and i don't wanna lose her. You either want to be with her or you don't. There is no in between and there is certainly nothing bad that will come from revealing your feelings. Positive thinking will always get you where your intending to go.

I can't throw it on her during the most important exams of her life!

Of course you can. Help take her mind off the studies. I think your terrified to do it honestly. Step outside yourself and call her right now and tell her how you feel. Its really that simple. Otherwise its gonna be next year and on and on and on. What happens if another guy approaches her while you wait and hooks it up? Go in guns blazing and steal that kiss already. :ar_15s:

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This man, this.

They end in 4 days time. I can wait.

She would probably like it if you did it now. You can even work it into the whole approach. "I was going to wait until after finals...but I can't..."

I've found with 90% of the girls I've dated they want to be CHASED. The hard to get thing is completely real. Ask her out...she might say maybe...she might even say no. If you really like her and you get one of those responses, ask her again a few days later. My rule is 3 strikes you are out. If a girl denies me 3 times, then either she really doesn't want to date me or she ****ed up big time.

I havent been involved in this conversation at all but reading what she said to you, you should be sweet man. Just ask her out for a drink or something similar relax and then instead of saying good night just kiss her.

ok about the 'pulling your zipper down and pretending to get your cock out' comment, I was actually serious about that, I just wanted to clear that up. I meant like in a joking way do that, not actually do it, then be like "ok im getting a boner, ill see you two later" and walk off laughing on a high note.

My advice is to NOT ask her out in some formal type of way. Just be like 'you seems stressed out' and then she'll say 'omg i know, these exams are so stressful!' and that's when knight in shining armor James comes in and says CASUALLY AND NOT NERVOUSLY 'yea you need to get your mind off the exams, lets go get ice cream or somethin.'

Also, be prepared so if she says yes you already have a time and date picked out. Just so you can say 'lets hit up (ice cream place or wherever) friday at like 7:30.' also be prepared if she says no so you dont view it as the end of the world. Even if she says no, be casual and be like 'you're so lame, who would ever turn down free chocolate ice cream' but say it in a light hearted way, not serious. If anyone is gonna put the nail in the coffin, let it be her and not of your own doing

Haha, that used to drive me crazy when I was single. I'd immediately lose interest in someone if I started feeling like she was playing games.

If a girl wants to do that, I don't want to bother.

i hardly even bother when I sense a girl is interested in me and she says "no" when I ask her out

I got no time for that

when I was younger, I was completely into playing games and I would go tit for tat but as I grow older, I don't have time for that crap so I immediately write them off if I see that's what they are doing.

I need advice.
I know a couple of you have been in the military. I was thinking of becoming a medic. From what I understand, I have to carry a hand gun for protection but it's a war crime if anyone shoots at me. I'm cool with that. I don't know if pulling bullets out of bodies on and off for four years will leave me in a decent mental state though.
I think medics go to bootcamp too. I could probably do that. I wouldn't enjoy it but I'm hardly a little bitch. If I need to go to school before this for something, I know it's not for me. I don't want to be a doctor, I want to be a human rights activist (although social work is my fallback.) I just have very little college money and I don't want to go to Bum**** University like 90% of my graduating class will.
I'm worried about the stress of being around death and sickness all the time. I've had post traumatic stress disorder before and it made me a total bitch. I came out of it alright but I'm not the most mentally stable person in the world. I have no idea if I have what it takes to do this.
I figure a couple years as a medic (3 I think?) and then a few weeks in a psychiatric hospital isn't such a bad deal for some college money, right?

As I told you earlier, I'm not sure if you'd pass the psych eval. I don't remember in detail but I'm pretty sure they will look into your files and see that you have been admitted.

Touch her hands, but don't randomly grab them or anything. For example if you're passing something touch her hands more than you normally would. Be good at listening, obviously.

There's more but I can't think now. I'll get back to you James.

They might not take you because of your prior PTSD. Anyways, don't you have to have some kind of EMS training for that position?

No, they give you that training as long as you score high enough on the ASVAB.

Oh ok, that makes sense.

As far as carrying a handgun, for the most part the only personnel that carry a handgun exclusively are officers. Also, every enlisted person regardless of what their job is, goes through boot camp, no exceptions.

she might have to carry more than a handgun being enlisted if she's on guard duty which as you know enlisted has to do.

You're right, my point was that officers normally do not carry more than a M9, at least in the case of medical officers.

I wasn't diagnosed with it but I was in the psych ward for a little while. I was 13 years old though, I don't think they'd hold it against me for something that happened when I was that little.

Thanks y'all, shit be helpful.

Tumor do you really wanna be a medic? Is this just a way to get money for college? There are tons of ways to get money for college if that's the reason you are thinking about joining as a medic. Hell, 2 of my friends GET PAID to go to school. Granted, one has a wife and kid but he makes like $4,000 a year by going to school and that's not including his work salary. There are seriously like a million different ways you can get grants and loans and stuff so don't do something like this just for the money because no, I don't think you can handle it. You seem as mentally solid as pudding and this would probably be one of the last things to do. Take out loans, don't stress over them, go to decent college, have a great time and get a degree doing what you want.

I think dirtys right when he puts it in that perspective. By the bolder in that post it seems like you don't really want it and it's a massive thing to commit to. If your heart isn't really in it then don't, it's real people you'd be dealing with and not something I'd want my medic to take a gamble on. You could go into loads of other jobs! That you'd probably still not be sure about, but isn't as consequential. At the end of the day, you know what's best for yourself lass :) don't worry about it.

This is a great piece of advice right here.

Terrible idea, for more than one reason.

I personally don't think you're serious about it, considering you don't even know which branch you want to go into. That tells me you haven't done very much research on the topic, and probably aren't seriously considering it.

I don't think you have the patience, self control, or mental fortitude to make it through boot camp, let alone Fleet Marine Force (FMF) school, which is the closest thing to an actual field medic you will actually see in todays military. And honestly, even if you did have what it takes, you would probably end up pregnant within the first year, which would disqualify you from school and you would spend your days sweeping floors and picking up trash around the base.

Even if you did become a Hospital Corpsman, or Medical assistant in non-Navy branches, you would probably spend most of your time giving penicillin shots in peoples asses and making appointments for old retired veterans.

I personally joined for the same reason, to get training and free school. But after going through almost everything and seeing what the military has to offer, my advice is this. Don't believe what you see in movies, the military is nothing like you think it is. It's boring, tedious, political, hypocritical, and back-stabbing. It will eat your soul.

Just take out a few hundred thousand in student loans and go to community college.

Why would she end up up the stick?

Was it necessary to say this? Sounds to me like an insult towards Tumor.

Wow, that's a lot of money for student loans, especially for community college or something. Is tuition really that high in the US? I know I won't have to pay much more than $50 or $60 K including interest when I finish university.