Wow my post led to a lot of replies.

I think it's easier to know if you're attracted to the other gender, but harder to specify if you're gay or bi.

Yeah definitely.
But honestly, there's no hurry in labeling, you know?
You could not like any girls, and think you're ***. Date some guys you really like, and then find a girl who you can't take your eyes off of.
You never know.

I tend to think of sexuality as a gradient of preference for one sex or the other.

With M for male and F for female, you could illustrate it like :

M--------------------------------------------------F

And then, maybe NumberNineDream would be here :

M--------------------NN------------------------------F

And adidasss might be here :

M------A--------------------------------------------F


We like to describe and classify ourselves often as absolutes like "***" or "straight" and most of us adopt those ideas - live up to them and make them part of us. However, in reality I think it's a gross simplification of the truth.

Just look at our closest animal relatives, the bonobos. Anything goes for them regarding sex :p: That doesn't mean the same should necessarily go for us, but of course the way we express our sexuality is severly constrained by culture - not just how we practice it but with who. Without cultural constraints, maybe homosexual behaviour would be common even for people who have a clear preference for the opposite sex. It is with most other social mammals out there.

What made you ask it in the first place?

That's what I think too, that's why I really don't get people that don't understand how can someone be "bi", or that get disgusted by the people that label themselves as "gay".

I mainly hate people that would expect a gay male to harass any male he sees, like he's some kind of animal forcing his sexuality on the innocent heteros.

I feel strongly about the bolded, I think it's very ball-headed to assume any *** man wants you. People should stop being so ****ing vain.

Maybe because I'm in a confusing phase of my life, but definitely because I was drunk when I posted it yesterday.

I love drunk Melissa, we see alot more of her these days :D.

I was voted "The best when drunk" by my friends.
I prefer my drunken self also xD

My drunken self often speaks the truth much more than my sober self. So perhaps don't pass off your post as "I was just drunk!"