Are you satisfied with your gender?

FETCHER. · 07-14-2010, 11:47 AM

I have heaps more male friends than female. I think its because I enjoy acting and speaking like a boy. I surprise myself sometimes by how unladylike I am. But at the same time I dont sit with my legs open, have a deep voice, or be overly vulgar about "pussy" and "****" I'd say I just have a mans sense of humour... On here the people I speak outside of the boards are about 70% male. I only speak to a few girls reguarly. Even though I am very friendly with them on here. I get on with box sexes I'm just a "tomboy" and prefer male company and the way males speak.

adidasss · 07-14-2010, 02:18 PM

I actually thought you were a complete girly-girl. I didn't pick up any tomboyishness...

FETCHER. · 07-14-2010, 02:20 PM

Haha, dont get me wrong I like girly stuff. I just don't think like one. At all. I have more trainers and jeans than i do heels and skirts. I used to play football until i broke my ankle...

boo boo · 07-14-2010, 04:52 PM

You still seem very feminine to me.

You don't really have to wear heels and skirts to be feminine either.

Astronomer · 07-14-2010, 05:37 PM

I definitely have more male friends than female friends, too. In fact I only have one good friend who is female, all the rest are guys. I get along with them way better. We share the same interests, like doing the same things... I live in a flat of only male friends. I dunno, I've actually always found it weird. Growing up I only ever played with my brother so maybe that's got something to do with it.

NSW · 07-14-2010, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Lateralus

I definitely have more male friends than female friends, too. In fact I only have one good friend who is female, all the rest are guys. I get along with them way better. We share the same interests, like doing the same things... I live in a flat of only male friends. I dunno, I've actually always found it weird. Growing up I only ever played with my brother so maybe that's got something to do with it.

You could be on to something there...I only ever played with my brothers too (mostly because my mom made us do everything together). Us and the neighborhoods guys would play football or kickball or go swimming or be doing some sort of sports all the time. I don't every remember a time when I played house or dolls. I loved sports though. I hope that if I'd grown up with sisters or as a single child I would have still been into sports, but who knows.

Typing this just now made me a little disturbed to realize that I automatically associated sports with guys. :\

FETCHER. · 07-14-2010, 05:44 PM

@booboo yeah I ofcourse know that, I'm glad I come across as feminine then. But when I'm in male company I really am not. I know girls dont have to wear heels and skirts to be feminine but girly girls make a big fuss over stuff like that. I was also said to be the least romantic woman ever, and would rather greet my boyfriend with a punch on the shoulder and say "awrite mate" than a cuddle. Probably true.

boo boo · 07-14-2010, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Lateralus

I definitely have more male friends than female friends, too. In fact I only have one good friend who is female, all the rest are guys. I get along with them way better. We share the same interests, like doing the same things... I live in a flat of only male friends. I dunno, I've actually always found it weird. Growing up I only ever played with my brother so maybe that's got something to do with it.

Why do you think that is? You don't come off as a tomboy to me at all (Kayliegh does sorta) you're just not very posh, you still come off as very girly girl to me from the way you act, your voice and your taste for classy dresses. Maybe girls in your area like to wear more makeup and more glammy/revealing dresses and consider you unhip but nothing about you strikes me as unfeminine, you're just a more down to earth kind of feminine that's all. And I love you for it.

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Originally Posted by nonsubmissivewife

You could be on to something there...I only ever played with my brothers too (mostly because my mom made us do everything together). Us and the neighborhoods guys would play football or kickball or go swimming or be doing some sort of sports all the time. I don't every remember a time when I played house or dolls. I loved sports though. I hope that if I'd grown up with sisters or as a single child I would have still been into sports, but who knows.

Typing this just now made me a little disturbed to realize that I automatically associated sports with guys. :\

TONS of chicks play and enjoy sports so to me sports being just a guy thing is a totally outdated concept.

I do dislike the great majority of sports fans for being sexist alpha male douchebags though.

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Originally Posted by kayleigh.

@booboo yeah I ofcourse know that, I'm glad I come across as feminine then. But when I'm in male company I really am not. I know girls dont have to wear heels and skirts to be feminine but girly girls make a big fuss over stuff like that. I was also said to be the least romantic woman ever, and would rather greet my boyfriend with a punch on the shoulder and say "awrite mate" than a cuddle. Probably true.

I dunno why, it's very common now to see girls in t shirts, jeans and tennis shoes these days, which I also consider outdated as a "masculine" trait. If you wear flannel, are growing a beard, pee standing up and have a desire to penetrate chicks with your penis, then I'd have some concerns about your lack of femininity.

Astronomer · 07-14-2010, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by boo boo

Why do you think that is? You don't come off as a tomboy to me at all (Kayliegh does sorta) you're just not very posh, you still come off as very girly girl to me from the way you act, your voice and your taste for classy dresses. Maybe girls in your area like to wear more makeup and more glammy/revealing dresses and consider you unhip but nothing about you strikes me as unfeminine, you're just a more down to earth kind of feminine that's all. And I love you for it.

Haha well shucks

Yeah, I don't really know why it is. I'm not a tomboy, I do act very much like a girl, I just get along with guys better. We tend to share the same interests like music, video games, sport, the outdoors... whereas most girls I know aren't into these things. I know many girls enjoy these activities and are they like me in that they aren't heavily into gossiping or hair or makeup or shopping... I just don't know many!

And yeah, like NSW I only played with my brother growing up, I don't remember having barbie dolls or any girly toys... I remember kicking a football outside with my brother, or playing in the mud, or making things out of lego.

Freebase Dali · 07-14-2010, 06:33 PM

I don't think girls that grow up around boys and play boys games are automatically going to become tomboys. I've seen too much evidence to the contrary. I think it's natural and healthy for girls to get rough and not have to tip-toe around with tea cups on their heads all day to be "lady-like" (Please don't, Vegangelica).
If anything, I think the entire term "tomboy" is thrown around like a frisbee far too much and for far too little.

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adidasss Slavic gay sauce Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Abu Dhabi Posts: 7,993	I actually thought you were a complete girly-girl. I didn't pick up any tomboyishness... __________________ “Think of what a paradise this world would be if men were kind and wise.” - Kurt Vonnegut, Cat's Cradle. Last.fm

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Astronomer we are stardust Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Australia Posts: 2,894	I definitely have more male friends than female friends, too. In fact I only have one good friend who is female, all the rest are guys. I get along with them way better. We share the same interests, like doing the same things... I live in a flat of only male friends. I dunno, I've actually always found it weird. Growing up I only ever played with my brother so maybe that's got something to do with it. __________________

07-14-2010, 06:33 PM	#450 (permalink)
Freebase Dali Partying on the inside Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 5,584	I don't think girls that grow up around boys and play boys games are automatically going to become tomboys. I've seen too much evidence to the contrary. I think it's natural and healthy for girls to get rough and not have to tip-toe around with tea cups on their heads all day to be "lady-like" (Please don't, Vegangelica). If anything, I think the entire term "tomboy" is thrown around like a frisbee far too much and for far too little.