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Old 07-04-2010, 02:00 PM   #171 (permalink)
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I have to agree with you here. They say its about feeling comfortable in your own skin and they didnt feel right being a man/woman so sex change was the only solution.

I just dont understand it. Maybe because I've never felt the need to get a penis to feel like myself, but I believe to be yourself you just need a bit of self-respect, and I dont see how having a sex change can do that for you. If you want to have a sex change, whatever floats your boat, go for it, but its not something I fully agree with.
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Old 07-04-2010, 02:30 PM   #172 (permalink)
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as for the shaving thing it cuts both ways but not nearly as bad on the man's face as the woman's legs. as a male you don't get any direct derision but you are treated differently when you have a badass hobo beard as compared to being clean shaven. women just seem far more direct and insidious with their genetic self-loathing than guys.
A badass hobo beard! Yeah, you don't see those too often, other than with ZZ Top. And in certain countries where male beards are encouraged or required by law for religious reasons (s c a r y ! ! ). I think people here occasionally playfully make fun of men's beards and especially mustaches. They don't make vocal "eww" sounds and derisive laughter about men's beards...very often, at least.

Here's an article about Mo'Nique, who keeps her body hair (pictures of her were shown earlier in the thread). I'm glad she and a few other famous women, such as the Dresden Dolls' Amanda Palmer, raise the topic of shaving and inspire a discussion. I'm glad they are so brave, because they make life easier for other women by helping to reduce social constraints on them:

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In January, at the Golden Globes, Mo’Nique, who won for her portrayal of a gruesome mother in “Precious,” lifted her floor-length dress to reveal her unshaved calves, abundant in their hairiness.

On Web sites like TMZ.com, people posted comments like “I have to HURL now ... Disgusting is an understatement.” It would seem that a collective ewww rang out nationwide, one designed to make every ’tween girl snap to attention and realize that leg hair is not allowed.

Mo’Nique was not the only red-carpet walker this awards season to just say no. Amanda Palmer, who used to sing for the punk-cabaret duo Dresden Dolls...raised an arm to show the world the hair underneath.

According to Ms. Palmer, women sometimes strike up conversations with her on the topic of body hair and tell her that they aren’t particularly wedded to shaving. But they “don’t want to deal with the stares, and it’s the path of least resistance,” she added.
That's part of what I don't like about shaving: it is as if women are intentionally making themselves obsequious, too afraid to stand up to people's negative opinions.

It reminds me of how in the 50s, women in the U.S. intentionally tried to "play dumb" so that their less educated male significant others didn't feel threatened (I have a book from the 1950s in which women are interviewed about this issue). I always felt sad for those women, because they weren't able to be who they really were in their relationships. And back then, with more limited work opportunities, women were forced to rely on finding a mate for financial security, so they made personal sacrifices in order to conform to the socially accepted view of "woman."
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Old 07-04-2010, 02:43 PM   #173 (permalink)
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The reason it's a bad thing for women to feel pressured by society/culture to shave their bodies is that they are being told that how they are physically, naturally, is disgusting, which IS sexist and demeaning toward women, since men are not told this about their body hair.

My whole point, boo boo, is that for many women NOT shaving ISN'T a choice they even consider, because they are too afraid not to shave. That is why it is sad. The reason it is sexist is that men's leg and arm hair is considered okay, but women's is not. I am all for choice...that's why I want to make sure my fellow women HAVE a real choice and are not denegrated for their bodies and shamed into feeling that how their bodies are naturally is bad.
It's all about gender roles. In a typical situation, men have body hair and women don't. Therefore, a woman who does not shave her body hair is seen as manly, and a man who shaves his body hair(other then for athletic purposes) is seen as feminine. In most cases, especially regarding males, this is done for the sole purpose of looking more masculine/feminine respectivley.

You're deluded if you think the reason girls shave is because they're 'afraid not to', they do it to make themselves look better, not because they're 'pressured by society', but because that is what most men find more attractive. In that sense, it's the same as a girl changing her hairstyle in order to make themselves more attractive. Do you have something against physical self-improvement?

More importantly, just because something 'unnatural' has become a social norm, doesn't mean it's a bad thing. It's not natural for me to wear glasses, but I do it so I can see better. It's not natural for me to wear clothing, but I'm sure people would say I was 'disgusting' if I chose not to.
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Old 07-04-2010, 02:45 PM   #174 (permalink)
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I've seen plenty of women say that men with hairy backs are 'disgusting'
So it works both ways.
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Old 07-04-2010, 02:59 PM   #175 (permalink)
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A badass hobo beard! Yeah, you don't see those too often, other than with ZZ Top. And in certain countries where male beards are encouraged or required by law for religious reasons (s c a r y ! ! ). I think people here occasionally playfully make fun of men's beards and especially mustaches. They don't make vocal "eww" sounds and derisive laughter about men's beards...very often, at least.
maybe not beards but i've most definitely heard less than nice comments about mullets heheh.

i also totally agree with all your other points.

though i must say body image stigma has definitely started to affect both genders in recent times though still not as harshly for men as women. but when you see men's 'health' magazines in the grocery store and most of the guys in the photos look like Adidasss' avatar it makes my skinny frame feel quite out of place (being built like a female runway model isn't quite that awesome when you're the one with the penis).


as for the comparison to the unnaturalness of glasses vs. the unnaturalness of shaving they're worlds apart. glasses serve a tangible purpose to allow for a productive life. i don't see how shaving one's legs or armpits quite serves the same purpose and function as the ability to provide clear sight.


here's a 'fresh' conspiracy theory for the afternoon as well. ever notice how there are no actual deodorants (to cover up the smell of the sweat) specifically marketed to women? only antiperspirants (to block pores to actually stop the sweat from happening). the conspiracy being a MUCH higher rate of breast cancer to those without deodorants.
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Old 07-04-2010, 04:14 PM   #176 (permalink)
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You know if this so true why is the great majority of criminals, sexual offenders and psychopathic killers male?
I know this is quite a few pages back but I only just saw it. I think this is because men tend to be more dominant in society and are (in general) physically stronger and therefore have better means to commit these crimes.
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Old 07-04-2010, 05:00 PM   #177 (permalink)
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Sugar-coated transphobia.
Hey hey hey, I am not a transphobic (is that even a word?). All I'm saying is that its not something I understand. But if someone chooses to be transgender, thats completely fine by me. Its not my choice, my opinion shouldnt even matter. Its their decision, they have every right to do what they want. But I personally cant relate to it.
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Old 07-04-2010, 05:46 PM   #178 (permalink)
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Personally i think its very easy to understand your point of view. If im honest then the idea of changing your sex is really, very weird to me. It doesnt mean that i cant understand that some people may genuinely feel that they would benefit from this, it just means that as im comfortable being male and cant imagine ever considering something like that, i cant possibly relate to these people and how they must feel about themselves.
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Old 07-04-2010, 05:57 PM   #179 (permalink)
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I somehow can, but I don't bother in a way. Like the tags "males" and "females" seem absurd to me. I'm not happy as a "female", but it's not because I find "male" better. I just feel excluded from the whole "gender" concept.
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I know this is quite a few pages back but I only just saw it. I think this is because men tend to be more dominant in society and are (in general) physically stronger and therefore have better means to commit these crimes.
Maybe, but all you need is a gun, that doesn't really require serious physical strength.
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