For Her.
 

I don't want to post this in order to garner sympathy. I just need to do something to honour Elaine who was my partner of 19 years and who died this morning of heart failure due to routine minor surgery.

It may sound cliched as **** but those that you love or care for hug them, make up with them or just call them. Time is so short and I feel so guilty that I have moaned or complained about stupid crap that doesn't really matter.

It was a honour and a privilege to know someone that deserved far better.

She wasn't a big music fan but there has been a recent ad campaign over here and she really liked the song that was used and my eldest son has chosen this for her funeral:



A mod can lock this, I just wanted to say that time is so damn short, take it with both hands and cherish it.

R.I.P

I`m so sorry for you loss!

Oh my ****ing god Lee, are you okay? Are your sons okay? Is there anything I can do?

Oh my ****ing god I am so sorry

I never thought I'd see anything like this on the forum.
Even the older members of the forum are still relatively young and to open this thread and to see this has really shocked me, nobody should be taken away that young.

I'm sorry for your loss Lee, especially at this time of the year. My thoughts are with you mate.

So sorry mate, was deeply saddened reading this.

I know it may seem crass to some people to be posting on a music forum at a time like this but music has already helped me through some of the day and I don't want to be sat down on the sofa only for my kids to find me drunk or passed out.

I just need to do something that requires a little focus. All those times u imagine certain songs to get u through have really done it for me today and then some.

My kids are OK, they seem to be in a state of shock as I am but I have been strong for them but just taking a little time out ATM.

My deepest condolences to you and your family, my friend.
I think I've been in shock since I read this and I can't even imagine how you must be feeling. I know I'm not alone here in saying that if there's anything I can do to help in any way then please ask.

This is shocking. Your thoughts are not cliched or hollow in the slightest. Time and unforeseen occurrence can befall us all. It's easy to look back and feel guilty, but I hope you will look back and think of all the wonderful things that you had together as well.

I'm so very sorry for you and your children's loss, Lee. My heart and thoughts go out to y'all, and if there is anything I can do, please let me know hun.

Very sorry for your loss, especially at this time of the year. My condolences to you and your family.

My deepest sympathies.
Stay strong for your children, Lee. They need you now more than ever.
Don't ever feel guilty for moaning about stupid crap either because you're right, it really doesn't matter.
If you ever need to talk you've got my email. Don't hesitate to contact me.

My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. God bless you all.

R.I.P. Elaine

I echo the thoughts of each member. Deeply sorry for your loss.

I can't imagine how you must be feeling. My deepest condolences.

I'm so sorry for you man. You must be devastated.
I wish you and your kids every bit of strength there is to get through the time that lies ahead.

Perhaps needless to say, but if you ever feel like talking,
I'm sure all of us are willing to listen.

And you're right. Life is short.
Your words are very true, and beautiful.

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My sincerest condolences to you and your family.

Lee, I am shocked and so incredibly sorry to hear this. My heart goes out to you and yours. I know I'm just some guy on the internet but I do truly consider you a friend and if there is anything I can do help you, or just help take your mind off things, please let me know.

I am extremely sorry for your loss. Stay strong. You will be in all of our hearts.

Whatever the relationship, death is never easy. I am sorry that Elaine is no longer with you, Lee.

Whenever I've lost a loved one, I've made a concious decision to carry them with me as much as I can. To think about things they taught me, or just things that always inspired me to recognize that I have it pretty good. This is pretty lame, but sometimes I make my passwords to things phrases they'd use, or things we had in common so I'm forced to remember them every day.

I hope she stays in your heart forever, Lee.

I never really know what to say in the face of loss, being someone who doesn't handle sympathy well, so I'll share with you the words that helped me, and hope that they bring comfort.

It will get easier with time.

Stay strong Lee. this is a terrible loss, and I'm genuinely sorry for you, and utterly shocked.

My deepest condolences Lee... really man. If there's anything we can do as a community please let us know.

I am very sorry to hear this, and genuinely send my condolences and thoughts your way. Stay strong, mate. I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm very sorry for your loss, Lee. Peace and blessings to you and your family.

Wow. I'm honestly sorry for your loss, friend. :( I wish you well. I think anything I say will sound rather trivial, so I'll just leave it at that.

I've only known you online for a relatively short time, but I've come to think highly of you and whether it's someone you know in person or over the internet, it's a shock and a saddening event to hear of such a thing happening. It's hard to fathom. My sincerest condolences. My thoughts are with you and yours.

That's heartbreaking, it truly is. I can't even begin to imagine what you and your family are feeling right now, but I know it must be terrible for you all, so I think that along with everyone else here my sympathy goes out to you.

You and your children have my deepest sympathies, Lee. Me and my wife were so saddened just reading about this now .. I don't find your message clichèd at all. The ones we love are ultimately the ones who give our lives meaning and so it's important to cherish them. Your thread is a sad reminder of this.

While I think it's important you stay strong for your children, I also think it's important that you allow yourself to feel sorrow. If there is anything I can do for you, don't hesitate to let me know.

I'm very shocked and saddened to read about this. My deepest condolences goes out to you and your family Lee. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry to hear that... That's a real tragedy. I'm really sorry.

I'm on holidays at the moment and just checked in briefly to MB and was totally shocked to see this, this is a terrible tragedy and must be a terrible shock to you and your family. I lost a close family member several years ago, so I know what you must be going through.

Once you get past the shock, unfortunately the pain will kick in, but you are lucky to have family members to share your grief and they to share with you. I guess this is the mother of your children and its a terrible tragedy for them to lose their mother so young. In time though, the healing process does begin and life goes on, but you will never forget her and she'll always be in your memories.

My condolences again to you and your family and you will be in my prayers.

That's awful. So sorry for your loss. Can't imagine what you're going through right now.

I was absolutely flabbergasted by this. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must be for one to lose someone so close, so important.
I hope you and your children have the strenght to cope with this loss. I'm terribly sorry.

My condolences Lee, I'm certain she was an incredible woman and that she will be missed dearly. My deepest respects to you, your family, and anyone else close to her.

I listened to the song in Elaine's honor, Jackhammer. I'm sorry about her sudden death during a routine surgery.

I agree with you that there is never enough time to say and do everything one wishes with a loved-one.

I like to hope that the people we love know how much they mean to us, even when we take them for granted sometimes and behave as if life will last forever. I also like to hope that the gratitude over having had even some time together shines through the sadness that results because the time is limited.

Thank you for sharing your loss with us, Lee. I wish you the best and hope it helps to know you aren't alone.

Thank you very much for all your kind words, they have been a great help to me. Much appreciated.

So sad to hear about your loss. Things will heal through time.

The death of a loved one is always difficult. I wish you all the best for your kids and especially you, Lee.

This seems like a quite ridiculous request but Elaine is being buried Friday 30th December @1 pm and I have asked for flowers or to give donations to a local animal shelter that we visited a lot and if anyone would like to give anything even if it is a dollar/pound or two I would be very grateful.

I appreciate that the logistics are difficult for those who are abroad but if you can spare anything even if you never get to see the results I would still be eternally grateful.

http://www.gawa.org.uk/

damn....i should poke around the lounge a bit more

my absolute deepest empathy to you and all who loved her

i donated 20 pounds in her memory.....and i'll raise my glass to all of you tonight in toast

if there is anything else i can do for you please let me know....if its within my power its done my friend :)

Many many thanks my friend. Appreciated. I am so ****ed right now. My kids are together enjoying each others company in their room and I am in another room empty.

I dont want them to see how I am right now.