Key

The problem is, this is the same as if someone should announce they're homosexual upon meeting them. Sometimes those things don't come up when you meet someone. She was probably really interested in you and wanted to be polite, so she figured she would keep it from you until you guys got to know each other more. Which is understandable in her case because it probably isn't the easiest task to find guys that won't judge her right away. She was probably scared.

NEWGUY562

I know realize that.. I don't feel like the victim anymore I feel like she's been the victim most of her life. It makes me want to reach out to her and be there when she needs someone to talk to but I can't because my girlfriend wouldn't be too keen about me talking to other females. (especially one that I hooked up with)

Key

Than do as you said you would do. Send her a text or just give her a call just to tell her what you know now. Just let her know that you wanted to patch things up and move on. It's honestly the only thing you can do to move on. Your girlfriend doesn't need to be involved. And if she asks, just say you're trying to wrap up some old faults.

NEWGUY562

Hmmm I'm thinking of what I should say to her. It's kind of awkward since the last time we talked was the same night everything happened. I feel like a jerk I don't know if she's gonna talk **** to for me disappearing or will be happy that I actually hit her up. If I hit her up she might think I'm still trynna "talk to her". I don't want to say "let's just be friends" because she's gonna think the only reason I'm saying that is because she's transgender. (I don't know if any of what I'm saying makes any sense to you, do you understand what I mean?)

Key

I do know what you mean. And honestly, the best way to patch things up fully is to be honest with her. You don't have to think about it, just tell her how you feel and if she understands, great. If she doesn't accept what you say, you can't say you didn't try, and trying is still patching things up.

NEWGUY562

I know this is off topic and forgive me for asking but what happened to Howard the Duck? He's the one that showed me around this board and introduced me on to some great music.

Key

http://www.musicbanter.com/lounge/66...d-part-ii.html

NEWGUY562

My heart just dropped :'( He was a great poster and had incredible taste in music. ..What a shame ..R.I.P. Howy

Scarlett O'Hara

Do you think it was freaking easy for her? To admit she was a T-girl? She didn't know you from a bar of soap so the fact that she had the balls (parden the pun) to tell you is really impressive.

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NEWGUY562

I should've paid more attention to what she told me..about her past relationships and why she's the way she is. (It all makes sense now)
It's messed up how guys can be so cruel to a girl just because she's different then the girls they're used to!
I just text her