The Relationship Thread.

[grindy]

Sure, a lot.

[The Batlord]

Nice.

[The Batlord]

Is that what he wrote on his dick the last time they had sex?

[Mindfulness]

Been chatting with this girl from high school lately off and on, on Facebook. She randomly asked me for money one night at like midnight, I gave her some but now every time she messages me I think it's for more money lol She is a nice person, she once smashed her truck into my parent's tree right in front of my parent's house and just lucky to be alive from that. We didn't really hang out in high school since I hung out with different people but I knew of her back then because the town is small and everyone knows everyone. I wouldn't mind chilling with her but she drinks so that would be hella awkward because I don't drink or even smoke weed anymore. If she keeps typing to me I'll type back but it's always at midnight or 1 am when she's probably drunk. It's been about a week of typing back and forth after I gave her that cashapp money.

[The Batlord]

She's an evil woman, Mindy.

[Mindfulness]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

She's an evil woman, Mindy.

She said her last boyfriend was mean, and she has a kid. I don't think she's evil but just into party timing still whereas I am the "stay inside and listen to headphones on the internet type" lol

[Lisnaholic]

If you enjoy texting at midnight, then go ahead and enjoy, Mindfulness, but I would recommend caution.
You say she has a child, which perhaps means she doesn't have much time to herself until the child is asleep; that's fair enough and an indication that she's a responsible mother. On the other hand, if it's about her getting drunk alone and then thinking, "Who can I talk to?", you're gonna find that pretty unsatisfying if you're not a drinker yourself.
I think I would find a pretext to have a text conversation at a different time of day, to see how friendly she is then.

[TheBig3]

Originally Posted by Mindfulness

She said her last boyfriend was mean, and she has a kid. I don't think she's evil but just into party timing still whereas I am the "stay inside and listen to headphones on the internet type" lol

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[Mindfulness]

Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

If you enjoy texting at midnight, then go ahead and enjoy, Mindfulness, but I would recommend caution.
You say she has a child, which perhaps means she doesn't have much time to herself until the child is asleep; that's fair enough and an indication that she's a responsible mother. On the other hand, if it's about her getting drunk alone and then thinking, "Who can I talk to?", you're gonna find that pretty unsatisfying if you're not a drinker yourself.
I think I would find a pretext to have a text conversation at a different time of day, to see how friendly she is then.

Yeah, I don't want to be the drunk-text dude. I still don't know much about her situation other than her last boyfriend being mean and her needing money at 1 am lol I guess I don't want to seem lame but my idea of fun isn't what I thought was fun like when I drank myself back in my 20s. I haven't drunk any alcohol in 2 years now, and that was just a relapse of 5 years sober before that. I thought about asking her if she wants to chill or eat somewhere but then she may find me hella boring since I don't drink or smoke weed. I guess I'm just boring, maybe she wants to hang out or maybe she just wanted some money. I guess I'll find out as time goes on but I would feel hella awkward meeting up with her and her wanting to drink when Im sober.

[SGR]

Originally Posted by Lisnaholic

If you enjoy texting at midnight, then go ahead and enjoy, Mindfulness, but I would recommend caution.
You say she has a child, which perhaps means she doesn't have much time to herself until the child is asleep; that's fair enough and an indication that she's a responsible mother. On the other hand, if it's about her getting drunk alone and then thinking, "Who can I talk to?", you're gonna find that pretty unsatisfying if you're not a drinker yourself.

Let's not mince words here now, come on. She's in "party mode" still and getting drunk, presumably, around midnight after her child goes to sleep? I'm sorry Alex, but I'm going to take "Not a responsible mother for 500".

Mindy, with all due respect, start thinking with your head that has a brain in it. Or, as Batty put it:



This woman will bring you nothing but trouble and heartache. She hits you up randomly for money, when you didn't have a close relationship to her previously in high school and you're basically just past acquaintances? And she gives you a sob story about her exes and how she has a kid now and needs money? She's trying to manipulate you brother. And you deserve better. Just because you don't want to drink and smoke with a girl who has a kid and had an abusive ex-boyfriend doesn't make you lame - in fact, quite the opposite - it would make you sane.

I don't know if I wanna know how much money you've already given to her, but I'd recommend you cut ties now as politely as possible (and don't give her any more money) and tell her to take a hike as gently as possible (or not, your call). Wish her the best of luck, move on with your life, and let some other sorry sap get suckered into the manipulation.

You deserve better dude. You come off as a really nice guy, and I think I can speak for all of us when I say that we appreciate that about you. But don't feel obligated to be the knight in shining armor for a girl who's getting drunk at midnight because she's still not ready to be a mom for her child.