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Works for some people. Nada moi though. Hopefully not him either, it'd really suck if he was lying all these years about not being into marriage.
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Atheists can get married too
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Not me. Although I have friends who are married and one of my best friends just proposed to his girlfriend. We were all together last night watching the wedding video of the one friend, and the proposal video of my other one. He had secretly filmed it. It was f*cking adorable.
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im at the age where some of my friends are starting to get married. ive never been to a wedding before and just want to get tooned at someone elses. soo like a month ago one of my friends got engaged but shes like one of those friends I see maybe 3 times a year, so im kinda doubting ill get an invite. but we always go camping in july/august so im gonna try and weasel my way onto the guest list there. and to top it all off another couple of my friends just got engaged (and shes like best friends with the other one) but again I see them the same amount. and theyll probably be on that camping trip as well. so this camping trip has huge implications for me im going to have to give a good pitch and get invited to both. pressures on for me.
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Married. For a bit more than 7 months now. Party.
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Marriage was originally a religious institution. I know that technically you can get married and it's not religious nowadays, but I like to make stances about things sometimes. Plus the whole metaphorical idea of losing myself. I like my independence. I don't want something marking me as belonging to anyone, never wanna change my name in the slightest as a minor point. Don't want who I am tied to another person on the record. Weddings are expensive, divorces are expensive, just not my bag man.
And regrettably the tax breaks aren't what they used to be, depending on your relationship. If one partner makes more, it is beneficial, but when both make about the same it's actually best to file separately. It's a shame how marriage is the only way most people seem to deem a relationship 'serious'. It's also a shame how retarded the word 'boyfriend' sounds, I feel like a 16 year old and try my best to say 'partner' without sounding like a secretive lesbian. |
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These are just a few points and I'm obviously just scratching a surface, but I imagine that if a society didn't have marriage, that society would probably become more competitive once marriage did evolve in culture and became popular. More incentive for people to cooperate about raising kids and building value to their lives would have a multitude of consequences. As for personal feelings about it, I didn't feel a loss of freedom when we married. Being a husband is pretty much like being a boyfriend I'd say. We have two incomes instead of one, so that gives us way more economic freedom. We both "dare" to invest in things like a house partly because the other can't just run away from it all. Unless you'd rather be with someone else than your wife/husband, the real "loss" of freedom comes with children. |
I've never been married. Can't wait for the eventual wedding where I dress like a fairy princess in a pink dress. I'm lucky I look 18 still, it means I will still look young when I get married eventually.
I do want to marry my cat. Is that possible? |
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I'm proposing next month. Also planning a nerdcore wedding to celebrate love, piracy, marshmallow cereal, cartoons, and an array of fandoms. Details here.
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I'm not into the whole idea of it at all. I also don't like the thought that if you don't want to get married, that means you don't love the person or you don't think you'll be with them forever. Honestly, I'm happy with how my life is right now, and I don't really see any reason to change anything in it. And I don't think i'll change my mind about it any time in the near or far future.
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Ki and Carpe. It's all cool. To be 100% honest, if not for us getting pregnant we may have never done it.
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We each suffered incredible emotional and psychological trials in our respective youths, we are both avid writers, rational skeptics, cultural historians, lovers of the arts and lifelong students of music. Our eccentric wit is well-matched, we have our own language of obscure sub-cultural references, we share a passion for anti-authoritarian philosophies and penchant for the avant-garde, and we inspire the best in one another. Oh yeah, and that whole love thing as well. I spun Metal Machine Music on our first date and knew from her reaction that it was love at first-listen. |
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If I found a girl who was into MMM I'd slap a ring on that too.
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the childfree life is the best life. we can afford everything we should ever want, never have to worry about babysitters or shit pants, and we have the freedom to travel or really do anything we please. we have such a perfect life. children are unnecessary - leave it to the breeders, they can have the next generation of cattle. |
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Oh well, this brings up an interesting point, even if I suspect for the wrong reasons. Are people who have children happier or not than people who don't? If you want to maximize happiness in your life, should you have children or not? |
It's a toss up. Some people really hate kids and see them as life-draining screaming little goblins, and others find it amazing that they can bring life into the world and try to help them to be a great person. For every Ki and Lis, there is a Chula.
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Actually, now that I think about it, I think Lis and Ki would make great parents. I can imagine Ki teaching them how to play violent video games, while Lis spins her favorite records. They seem pretty self-conscious about the whole thing, like they believe that they would make horrible parents, but I think that doubt would drive them to be a lot more careful and truly loving than many other parents (who just assume that their parenting skills are amazing, and everything that goes wrong is the child's fault).
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I've raised my daughter being a single father, and she's a beautiful, compassionate, and intelligent person, which probably wouldn't be the case if I had allowed her mother stay. Her mother has been a source of teaching for me though, mainly showing my daughter how unhealthy thought patterns, and self destructive behavior can destroy her life. We both treat her mother as a sort of science experiment, but I've always stressed to my daughter that no matter what her mother does to her, she still loves her very much, and is just "Not well", which she's accepted and embraced. It's what I had to inject into the dynamic of the whole situation in order to keep some sort of balance. Children need to know that the people who created them are at least halfway decent human beings even though they sometimes don't act like it. |
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Not married. No kids. Am 34.
I don't really have the inclination to go through with it. I don't feel like there's anything there except an expectation from others. It's funny, we were just talking about this at work on Thursday when a potential hire came through to meet us and get a feel for the environment. We ended up talking about family, etc. and when my boss got to me, asking if I was ever going to shack up I just yelled "NOPE". It has become an automatic response now, but when I think about it, it's not as if I'm actively trying not to get married and have kids... it's that I'm not actively trying TO. There isn't a sense of urgency. I don't feel like kids are a legacy and I don't feel an obligation to the human race. Of course, I say that because I don't have kids, therefore I am on the other side of my own possible feelings about the matter in that I don't have them and therefore am not qualified to know how I'd feel about them in that context. But as far as marriage is concerned, apart from an act of commitment, I don't view it as much more than a societal tradition. I'm open to it, I guess. I'm just not thinking about it as some sort of requirement or goal. I'm sure I'll regret it on my death bed, should I never start a family of my own, but goddamn if I'm going to not live my entire life the way I want for the sake of having someone to hold my hand when I'm sh*tting the bed during my final hours in a rest home. |
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