The Relationship Thread

[Marie Monday]

Thank you for being your lovely self, ribbons. And respect for solving Steph's riddle <3

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by ribbons

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Oh btw were you being mean again?

[Marie Monday]

no ribbons was being graceful, Hawk was the meanie

[The Batlord]

We both know she has a hateful soul.

[Marie Monday]

you hater

[goldendoodle]

Perfect timing for this thread as I'm JUST NOW getting into a new relationship (but while also dealing with an ex* who is also my best friend who will not be happy with this new development) as of.. well I guess as of a week ago although it probably won't be ~official until I arrive for my visit soon. (We are already in the same friend group as he used to live here until he moved to Las Vegas a year and a half or so ago. We met via the group chat we're both in. But, when he lived here we somehow never crossed paths, at least not that we know of) Which will be right after thanksgiving. So if any of you are very familiar with Las Vegas and know of something that I absolutely must do or eat (well, that would be doable with covid in mind; we'd be doing takeout/delivery ofc) with the new bf during my initial 3 day visit, do let me know/PM me. (As he isn't 100% acquainted with the city yet. There WILL be hiking though at least)

*said ex/best friend struggles with severe, somewhat treatment-resistant depression (and some other things which obviously are too private to blab about here) which doesn't help matters. For the past 2 years or so I honest-to-god thought I was either asexual, autistic or a lesbian so it'll be a bit jarring for him to learn about. (Apparently I just cannot sustain romantic feelings/sexual desire for someone unless I have a connection with them on every possible level or, at the very least, feel inexplicably safe with them/with a male person, considering my fun spicy assortment of past Trauma) He also will convince himself that the new bf is the only thing standing in the way of me and him eventually being together (as he remains convinced that we are soulmates), despite the fact that I had already lost any romantic feelings for him (for various complicated reasons) well before this new person was even on my radar. I just struggled to explain to him exactly what that is/why I cannot be his girlfriend because it's hard to articulate my weird issues/requirements for feeling ~safe/connected to someone and, also, in the past he always had a tendency to dismiss everything I said on the matter, so. I was/am also always legitimately worried about him committing suicide (as opposed to just binge drinking which no longer even really affects him beyond making him sleep more easily and numbing him slightly) so there's also that. If it ends up ruining our friendship, it will not be the first time this has happened with me. (A close friend cutting off contact because seeing me dating someone is too painful for them or whatever) Merely even thinking about that whole ordeal with him drains me though so I'd rather not discuss it here any further.

[adidasss]

Originally Posted by goldendoodle

Perfect timing for this thread as I'm JUST NOW getting into a new relationship (but while also dealing with an ex* who is also my best friend who will not be happy with this new development) as of.. well I guess as of a week ago although it probably won't be ~official until I arrive for my visit soon. (We are already in the same friend group as he used to live here until he moved to Las Vegas a year and a half or so ago. We met via the group chat we're both in. But, when he lived here we somehow never crossed paths, at least not that we know of) Which will be right after thanksgiving. So if any of you are very familiar with Las Vegas and know of something that I absolutely must do or eat (well, that would be doable with covid in mind; we'd be doing takeout/delivery ofc) with the new bf during my initial 3 day visit, do let me know/PM me. (As he isn't 100% acquainted with the city yet. There WILL be hiking though at least)

*said ex/best friend struggles with severe, somewhat treatment-resistant depression (and some other things which obviously are too private to blab about here) which doesn't help matters. For the past 2 years or so I honest-to-god thought I was either asexual, autistic or a lesbian so it'll be a bit jarring for him to learn about. (Apparently I just cannot sustain romantic feelings/sexual desire for someone unless I have a connection with them on every possible level or, at the very least, feel inexplicably safe with them/with a male person, considering my fun spicy assortment of past Trauma) He also will convince himself that the new bf is the only thing standing in the way of me and him eventually being together (as he remains convinced that we are soulmates), despite the fact that I had already lost any romantic feelings for him (for various complicated reasons) well before this new person was even on my radar. I just struggled to explain to him exactly what that is/why I cannot be his girlfriend because it's hard to articulate my weird issues/requirements for feeling ~safe/connected to someone and, also, in the past he always had a tendency to dismiss everything I said on the matter, so. I was/am also always legitimately worried about him committing suicide (as opposed to just binge drinking which no longer even really affects him beyond making him sleep more easily and numbing him slightly) so there's also that. If it ends up ruining our friendship, it will not be the first time this has happened with me. (A close friend cutting off contact because seeing me dating someone is too painful for them or whatever) Merely even thinking about that whole ordeal with him drains me though so I'd rather not discuss it here any further.

I'm not a psychologist but your ex/best friend seems like a toxic/draining element in your life. I understand you have a connection with him but I think at some point people should start distancing themselves from self-destructive people in order to be happy. A true best friend would understand and be happy that you have found someone you're excited about.

He needs help, but you are not responsible for his wellbeing. :/

[OccultHawk]

I was/am also always legitimately worried about him committing suicide (as opposed to just binge drinking which no longer even really affects him beyond making him sleep more easily and numbing him slightly) so there's also that.

Girl. You need to drop that like a hot potato.

Adidasss is speaking the gospel.

You ain’t need no suicidal drunk mixed in with whatever else you gotta deal with. I know you’re kind and maybe have some reason to be empathetic here but you need to look out for number one and not go stepping in number two.

[Norg]

has a guy i dont see how its possible for a hot girl to have a "Guy" friend ..???? unless he a freaking simp

because Yall know what "most" guys mission is !!!!! lol

[Lucem Ferre]

You really love showing off that extra chromosome of yours.