The Relationship Thread
 

How it be? How are y’alls relationship statuses going or not going?

Ooooof don’t remind me how broke I am

In a happy relationship of 7+ years. First and only boyfriend/partner I ever had, hopefully the only one...quite lucky I think, considering the chances of finding someone who is compatible enough with you to form a long term relationship are generally slim, among gay men slimmer...so yeah...:)

Wow that is quite lucky, what’s the secret to your success? How did y’all meet?

I think this will not come off very romantic but here it goes:

I was living in Dubai and was hooking up with people through some gay apps. I had a few unsuccessful dates and was quite horny when he sent me a message. We chatted, he was cute, I suggested we hook up (for sex), he said he'd rather have dinner and get to know each other first. I said I rather wouldn't waste my time since he wasn't living in Dubai, what's the point (I thought). So we left it there, I looked elsewhere, didn't find anything, he came back the next day and sent another message asking me out again, I refused again. But then I thought, fuck it, what's the big deal, it's just dinner.

And so we went for dinner in a nice restaurant in his hotel, we wined and dined and had fun and I kept waiting for him to invite me to his room (because I'm a big slut and was still horny) which he took a LOOONG time in doing but thankfully did!

I knew this was something different when he put on Anthony and the Johnsons (he was 47, it's quite rare people that age know any contemporary music).

We saw each other a couple of more times, we hit it off and I felt like I knew him much longer.

He was leaving in a few weeks and I thought that was it, but then he surprised me by buying us a pair of tickets to see Antony and the Johnsons in Barcelona a few months after. And I swooned.

And so I came, and we spent an amazing few weeks traveling around Spain. We declared love to each other (crazy I know!) and I cried on the way back to Dubai (first time I did that in a decade).

He came to live with me a few months after and we've been together ever since...

The end...:)

I mean not the end, realistically, it was my first relationship, I had no idea what I was getting myself into, he was quite a bit older (17 years), the discrepancy was enough to cause some friction while I was learning to navigate a relationship with two strong characters with very different life experiences, so we had some ups and downs but the bond was strong enough to hold us (and I hope it continues to).

And so here we still are...:)

Oh yeah, FYI, and to tie it to the theme of the thread, what preceded that was years of waiting around for prince charming to find me (unsuccessful strategy), followed by about a thousand wasted conversations with guys (online) and a few random hook ups (I was quite shy at that time) mostly out of desperation before I managed to find someone decent. The fact that my first boyfriend turned into my current one is a giant miracle. So sometimes it's just luck. :/

word of advice never get into a relationship with a girl fresh off a divorce and with kids


because there pretty broken DOwn inside and broken heart

u come swooping in like a white knight and things go gravy for a few months

but it usually ends up the white knight double breaks her heart LOL

I never let marriage or divorce stop me but having kids, even adult children, is a Hawk no fly zone. I’ll **** a mother but I’d never date one. ****ing repulsive frankly.

yup but there is like alot of women these days with kids and had a divorce with the father

alot of broken family and not always because of the guy alot of times its the women who are just dropping these guys like there nothing :P

Totally agree. Saw it a million times as a teacher.

I don’t respect either side. I don’t respect single mothers. I think they’re disgusting. And I don’t respect the men that knocked them up either. They’re losers who don’t raise their own kids. Even if it’s the woman’s fault it’s the dude’s fault for shooting his j izz up in that crazy bitch’s snatch. Tbh, I don’t respect married people with kids either though. Or only very very very rarely. Like 1 person in a million should have a child, if that. Just let your DNA die. Do the earth a favor.

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The fact that you distinguish between single and married parents is some conservative patriarchal bull****.
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Yay to single moms. Dump those disgusting men in the trash where they belong

Two loving biological parents under the same roof is the best case scenario.

Conservatives are right on that one.

No. Scientifically speaking having a strong attachment to at least one person (could literally be anyone) and having their needs met consistently is the best case scenario. Gtfoh with that single moms are disgusting talk. As if you're some ****ing prize.

There are single moms active on this board you bloated waste of flesh. Take your dick out of your grubby ass hands and think for two seconds before you speak.

Biology matters. That’s how evolution works.

Most people shouldn’t breed.

Thank god you didn't

Biology matters to an extent but sure, tell me more about my field. I'm talking straight up brain science.

They should’ve had ****ing abortions.

Church.

You should abort yourself

Are you suggesting I kill myself?

@Hawk my mom is a single mother and a 1000x better person than you are bitch

Next up: every person close to a single parent or step parent which unfortunately is everyone

OH should learn to shut the **** up and realize his opinion doesn't matter.

Next up: Hawk plays the attacked victim card like a little weasel after gravely insulting forum members

So transparent and predictable.

im just telling about my exp of dating a girl straight off divorce with 1 kid

we dated for a few months i treated her like a Queen and her kid but she left me after a few months outta the blue ..???? BTW mind you her X husband cheated on her

she goes on dates another guy and he cheats

then she gets drugged and knocked up by another guy and has another kid but does not even know who that baby daddy is


and mind u here iam thinking Dang WTF i do :P i was the best thing going for her


I think its obvs for the best tho i got out and damm im lucky i guess ahahahah

classic

A real Nice Guy™

5/5 classic **** right there son

Shut the **** up. For real.

I've been a single Dad for 23 years. My daughters mother was a beautiful person inside and out until prescription drugs took ahold of her when our daughter was 3, so I separated my daughter and me from that equation and haven't looked back.

Before all that, I was put in jail for things I didn't do (like hitting herself over her head with a brick and telling the police I did it as a small example), beaten on, had my little girl ripped from my arms while her mother was creaming "You'll never see your daughter again... blah blah.." as my daughter was screaming for me, mocked, ridiculed, and quite a few other things I might be repressing or don't feel like sharing here. She went absolutely mental and still is. She OD'ed a few months back, which she's done too many times to count through the years, and when my daughter did visit her mother, I'd sometimes have to pick her up from some random police station because her mother was shoplifting for drug money. Insanity.

The one constant through all of it though was me telling my daughter that her "mother loves her very much, and she just needs to work things out right now". I needed to be strong to guide my little girl through that darkness. This has proven to be one of the truest statements and one of the best gestures towards any sort of healthy relationship between all of three of us. When her mother does get moments of clarity, she's very apologetic and her love for her daughter finally shines through. It's heart breaking actually.

I don't talk about it here, but I raised one helluva kid on my own through compassion, understanding and a lot of love.

Damn man, you're making me tear up (in a good way). I had no idea you're a dad, it sounds like you handled things wonderfully. Respect.

*hugs*

Thank you Marie.

I get a bit teary talking about it. I also have another reason to get a little misty... my daughters SO asked me for her hand in marriage! He's a fantastic kid with a heart of gold. We both cried, hugged, and now look at each other with a little more respect. Plus, we have a mutual secret. lol

Oh that's fantastic, congratulations!

Aww now you're a DILILF

Does it involve a shovel?