The coming out thread - Take II

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 02-08-2012, 05:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I came out to both my mother and my brother about four or five years ago after school. My mom took my newly-announced sexuality fairly well while my brother was rather ambivalent about it (we haven't brought it up since). It wasn't dramatic in any sense of the word, and it would be a bit silly to bore the lot of you with any details... Unfortunately, I'm not openly gay outside of the family... so I have been unable to date (which I plan on changing in the fall... when I attend college). I honestly don't give a damn about the homophobia that runs rampant where I live. I'm tired of lying to people...

That's it.

You're gay? I thought you were asexual?

TockTockTock · 02-08-2012, 02:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Paloma

You're gay? I thought you were asexual?

I tell that to people so they don't bother me with certain things of sexual nature. I'm still a prude... just a gay prude.

However, I do apologize for lying.

~~Sansa Stark~~ · 02-08-2012, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I tell that to people so they don't bother me with certain things of sexual nature. I'm still a prude... just a gay prude.

However, I do apologize for lying.

Being unsure of your sexuality and not wanting to expose it is pretty understandable.

**Janszoon** · 02-08-2012, 05:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I came out to both my mother and my brother about four or five years ago after school. My mom took my newly-announced sexuality fairly well while my brother was rather ambivalent about it (we haven't brought it up since). It wasn't dramatic in any sense of the word, and it would be a bit silly to bore the lot of you with any details... Unfortunately, I'm not openly gay outside of the family... so I have been unable to date (which I plan on changing in the fall... when I attend college). I honestly don't give a damn about the homophobia that runs rampant where I live. I'm tired of lying to people...

That's it.

That's good to hear man. I hope where ever you go to college is a more open place.

~~Farfisa~~ · 02-08-2012, 05:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I came out to both my mother and my brother about four or five years ago after school. My mom took my newly-announced sexuality fairly well while my brother was rather ambivalent about it (we haven't brought it up since). It wasn't dramatic in any sense of the word, and it would be a bit silly to bore the lot of you with any details... Unfortunately, I'm not openly gay outside of the family... so I have been unable to date (which I plan on changing in the fall... when I attend college). I honestly don't give a damn about the homophobia that runs rampant where I live. I'm tired of lying to people...

That's it.

I'm actually kind of glad. My experience with friends coming out led them to over compensate and act like total asses. I don't think I need to tell you that you shouldn't feel like you need to act a certain way for people to get your sexual preferences. To be honest, sexual preference doesn't mean a thing, people just make out to be big. College is usually a better place in terms of more open minded people, I still feel just as miserable here though.

DoctorSoft · 02-08-2012, 07:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I came out to both my mother and my brother about four or five years ago after school. My mom took my newly-announced sexuality fairly well while my brother was rather ambivalent about it (we haven't brought it up since). It wasn't dramatic in any sense of the word, and it would be a bit silly to bore the lot of you with any details... Unfortunately, I'm not openly gay outside of the family... so I have been unable to date (which I plan on changing in the fall... when I attend college). I honestly don't give a damn about the homophobia that runs rampant where I live. I'm tired of lying to people...

That's it.

Way to go man! Glad you're comfortable enough to come out to the rest of the site

Burning Down · 02-08-2012, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I came out to both my mother and my brother about four or five years ago after school. My mom took my newly-announced sexuality fairly well while my brother was rather ambivalent about it (we haven't brought it up since). It wasn't dramatic in any sense of the word, and it would be a bit silly to bore the lot of you with any details... Unfortunately, I'm not openly gay outside of the family... so I have been unable to date (which I plan on changing in the fall... when I attend college). I honestly don't give a damn about the homophobia that runs rampant where I live. I'm tired of lying to people...

That's it.

I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to tell us this, and I hope that the college you attend has a more inviting atmosphere than the community you live in right now. Way to go

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 02-09-2012, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Jack Pat

I came out to both my mother and my brother about four or five years ago after school. My mom took my newly-announced sexuality fairly well while my brother was rather ambivalent about it (we haven't brought it up since). It wasn't dramatic in any sense of the word, and it would be a bit silly to bore the lot of you with any details... Unfortunately, I'm not openly gay outside of the family... so I have been unable to date (which I plan on changing in the fall... when I attend college). I honestly don't give a damn about the homophobia that runs rampant where I live. I'm tired of lying to people...

That's it.

Awesome, I'm glad you shared it with us, I had no idea whatsoever.

Howard the Duck · 02-08-2012, 05:36 AM

put me in the same bracket as Brett Anderson

"bisexual who's never had a proper homosexual experience"

~~Odyshape~~ · 02-08-2012, 06:38 PM

I think I could be bisexual. Like the idea of being with either a guy or girl doesn't really seem weird to me. The first time I really thought it could be possible was when I thought that the guy Ricky from my so called life had a really cool fashion sense and thought he was so cool. Originally I thought he was just dressing all 90s like but then I found out later in the show that he was gay. He was my favorite character too. I find myself rooting for the gay protagonist in shows quite often too. Its definitely possible that I could be bisexual but in all I really don't know at this time I have never had much of an experience to really push it.

02-08-2012, 06:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
~~Odyshape~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 526	I think I could be bisexual. Like the idea of being with either a guy or girl doesn't really seem weird to me. The first time I really thought it could be possible was when I thought that the guy Ricky from my so called life had a really cool fashion sense and thought he was so cool. Originally I thought he was just dressing all 90s like but then I found out later in the show that he was gay. He was my favorite character too. I find myself rooting for the gay protagonist in shows quite often too. Its definitely possible that I could be bisexual but in all I really don't know at this time I have never had much of an experience to really push it.