mental health thread

[James]

I'm usually not one to post about my personal life on here, but I've been in a really dark place these last few months. How do you work up the courage to go to the doctors and admit you have a problem?

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by James

I'm usually not one to post about my personal life on here, but I've been in a really dark place these last few months. How do you work up the courage to go to the doctors and admit you have a problem?

I don't know if you already have, but try your parents first. Unfortunately, we're pretty much just like them in some ways, so even if stuff goes unsaid, I'm sure they have personal experience with your issues that would make talking to them about them even more helpful than a professional (at least for a start). My mom and I never really talked about mental stuff until about a year ago, and it kind of left an unspoken wedge between us, but now we're being more open with stuff like mental issues. Trading shared battle scars can be illuminating to all of you and bring you together in a way you might not expect.

[James]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

I don't know if you already have, but try your parents first. Unfortunately, we're pretty much just like them in some ways, so even if stuff goes unsaid, I'm sure they have personal experience with your issues that would make talking to them about them even more helpful than a professional (at least for a start). My mom and I never really talked about mental stuff until about a year ago, and it kind of left an unspoken wedge between us, but now we're being more open with stuff like mental issues. Trading shared battle scars can be illuminating to all of you and bring you together in a way you might not expect.

This is helpful. We Scots are especially stoic and emotionally repressed so it could be difficult, but I might give it a try.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by James

This is helpful. We Scots are especially stoic and emotionally repressed so it could be difficult, but I might give it a try.

Irish Catholic, so I know where you're coming from. Just start with something basic. Like, "I've been feeling depressed for *such and such an amount of time*, and I don't really know how to deal with it." You don't have to unload your life story all at once, just start a dialogue that actually makes it explicit that something is up. Enough so that they have something to respond to. More in-depth discussions will likely happen with time.

[RoxyRollah]

Originally Posted by James

I'm usually not one to post about my personal life on here, but I've been in a really dark place these last few months. How do you work up the courage to go to the doctors and admit you have a problem?

Think of it like rippin off a band aide.Addmitting you need to see someone is a good start.
Finding constructive things to do is probably the hardest part of depression.I struggle with that personally.Because well I really like those gross drugs you talk about.Ive been so blue lately I had to turn to baking sweets and making ppl around me fat.Win win they like cake ,I enjoy watching them get fat.Eurbody win. Seriously tho,looking at the root,(or searching for the root) of your problem might help you,because once you understand what it is that sets off these episidodes then you can be pro active vs.reactive.Depression is a real motha****a. So much so it's become a collectable disabilityin the Us.Which Im not entirely isnt some governmrntal sort of enabling. But if you ever need some one to listen btother Im around.And I hold privacy in the highest regard.Ask JWB he'll tellyou.

[The Batlord]

**** what I said, bake me a cake. It'll make you feel better maybe.

[RoxyRollah]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

**** what I said, bake me a cake. It'll make you feel better maybe.

Ok,but no stripper inside this time.It took me 2 weeks to clean up her remains last time.

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

Irish Catholic, so I know where you're coming from. Just start with something basic. Like, "I've been feeling depressed for *such and such an amount of time*, and I don't really know how to deal with it." You don't have to unload your life story all at once, just start a dialogue that actually makes it explicit that something is up. Enough so that they have something to respond to. More in-depth discussions will likely happen with time.

Snap, I am also Irish Catholic (Granddad is).

I am one of those people that internalise their feelings and don't tend to tell my parents if I'm really struggling because they are going through their own personal problems.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by Vanilla

Snap, I am also Irish Catholic (Granddad is).

I am one of those people that internalise their feelings and don't tend to tell my parents if I'm really struggling because they are going through their own personal problems.

Well of course, cause they're just as screwed up as you. The old adage that nobody wants to hear about other people's problems is largely nonsense when it comes to close family.

Unless of course you're just bitching about work. Nobody wants to hear your work stories. Even here. It's not such a big deal since I'm not staring you in the face, being forced to look like I care, but I guarantee you, if I was sitting on a couch chilling with LiL or WD, and they just started in on how their day at their job sucked, I wouldn't give half a ****, cause I'm just there to relax and not deal with bull**** and here you are shoveling more into my face.

[GuD]

Does anyone have advice on talking to employers about mental illness?

I'm ****ing up again. I've been trying to self help and have a pretty good idea of what I'm dealing with it's just difficult to figure out how to communicate to your employers what's going on without seeming like I'm trying to use it as an excuse... I mean "Sorry if I'm inconsistent at the workplace but I think I have paranoid personality disorder" doesn't seem like a valid reason for showing up drunk and being afraid to take a ****ing **** without thinking people are suspecting I'm getting drunk.