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Old 10-30-2013, 05:17 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Chris, which group of people make you feel best?
I feel like I am best friends with the group I'm currently in, but this is just because I know them better. Also another main factor of the reading I want to be in the more popular group is because the girl I fancy is in that group.
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Old 10-30-2013, 05:32 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Im currently in the uncool group. Sure, it's a laugh and these people are actually my friends and like me but yeah. Anyway, I've always tried to get into the cooler group who actually go out to parties and stuff for a while. Recently, they've started to invite me to places more often. However, I realised they don't really like me and only invite me for stupid reasons. So my situation is, they asked me to go paint balling with them and at first I thought it would be fun and a chance to permanently in their group. However I found out that the only reason I was invited was so they had enough people to get a discount. Can you tell me whether I should still go?
F*ck cliques. You'll [hopefully] grow out of it anyway. Hang out with people you like being around and vice versa. You're not going to get any fulfillment out of trying to be accepted into, and measure up to, another stratum of arbitrary (and temporary) cool-group-in-the-schoolyard people you have no real commonality with. It will likely end up with you spending your time unsuccessfully trying to be one of them, and them spending your time using you.
It's not worth it on any level, unless you're just there for a piece of ass. In which case, if you think you actually have a shot, yea, go paint balling with them and try to score a bonus level. Otherwise, you should not be putting much effort into it beyond that, because you'll most likely end up regretting it and pissing off your real friends in the process.

If there's one thing you should learn sooner rather than later, it's that you should just be yourself and expend your efforts where they are appreciated on their own merits. Save the ladder climbing for when it actually matters after you're in a career and all grown up. By then, I guarantee you that you will consider your current conundrum to be an insignificant adolescent learning process even if you do score that piece of ass.

(I'm making a lot of assumptions here, but by the looks of it, it's probably all very relevant)
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Old 10-30-2013, 07:40 PM   #13 (permalink)
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Im currently in the uncool group. Sure, it's a laugh and these people are actually my friends and like me but yeah. Anyway, I've always tried to get into the cooler group who actually go out to parties and stuff for a while. Recently, they've started to invite me to places more often. However, I realised they don't really like me and only invite me for stupid reasons. So my situation is, they asked me to go paint balling with them and at first I thought it would be fun and a chance to permanently in their group. However I found out that the only reason I was invited was so they had enough people to get a discount. Can you tell me whether I should still go?
Go paintballing. Dabble in both worlds until you have to finally have to make a choice between the two. In the mean time you can spend time flirting with the girl that you like and end up finding out if she's really into you or not then when it's time to make a more concrete choice of which group to be in stick with your friends that you have known all along.
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Old 10-30-2013, 08:04 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Invitin u to paintball?? Say no. Its a time travel group of holograms from 2006
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Old 10-31-2013, 12:04 AM   #15 (permalink)
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I think being who you are and not letting the "cool kids" tell you what you should do is way more edgy.
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Old 10-31-2013, 01:36 AM   #16 (permalink)
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They're using you dude. **** um. Literally if you can. Except maybe not. I'm drunk don't listen to me.
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Old 10-31-2013, 03:08 AM   #17 (permalink)
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Go paintballing. Dabble in both worlds until you have to finally have to make a choice between the two. In the mean time you can spend time flirting with the girl that you like and end up finding out if she's really into you or not then when it's time to make a more concrete choice of which group to be in stick with your friends that you have known all along.
I might do this ^. If I realise I'm not wanted there, thee. I will stop hanging round with them.
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Old 10-31-2013, 03:20 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I might do this ^. If I realise I'm not wanted there, thee. I will stop hanging round with them.
I'm pretty sure they don't really want you around but since they are using you. You might as well use them as well as a doorway to chat up that bird.

Also you can have a little fun in the process.

I love paintballing but haven't done it in years!
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Old 10-31-2013, 09:32 AM   #19 (permalink)
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If these kids are so cool how come they dont have enough friends to go paintballing in the first place?
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Go and party with them. They'll probably have weed. Smoke their shit and then when it's your turn tell them that your contact is out or you had to spend all your money on a new carburetor/bike chain and you'll get them next time. You swear.
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