Traditional Asian Parents

RL Clown · 11-11-2013, 08:22 AM

Before I start, let me make myself clear... I did not create this thread out of anger or sadness. I am not racist. The reason I made this thread is because I am looking for answers... I do not understand why Asian parents demand so much from their children.

My Asian parents are only satisfied when I bring home A grades. They will not tolerate B's, C's, or anything that is lower. When I bring home a C, my parents act as if I have just committed a crime.

I understand that my parents put a roof over my head and they give me food. To a degree, I owe them (no kidding). But if you had parents who constantly told you that you have to get an A in every course, wouldn't you find this irritating? Besides, I have already paid my parents back... I mow the lawn, I shovel the snow, I prepare the table for dinner almost everyday. I have received some A's in Accounting and Business courses. But for some reason, to a degree, my parents act as if I am never good enough for them.

I know that there are some exceptions... There are some Asian parents who are very tolerant and permissive... They allow their sons/daughters to go to the movies and hang out with their friends. But generally speaking, when I look at first generation Asian immigrant parents, I find that they are very conservative. Again, why do Asian parents demand so much from their sons/daughters?

Let's look at the excuse... "Asian parents came from countries where life was really hard... In these countries, human beings were used. Human beings were sold. Human beings were exploited." But black people and latinos also come from developing countries. Black people and latinos are a lot more permissive than Asian parents. (Generally speaking, it's true.)

I am not saying that Asian parents are evil. However there are times when I think that they are too conservative. I think that I am speaking for millions of Asian children... Asian parents need to change their way of thinking. They need to become more tolerant. They need to allow their sons/daughters to have a social life. Academic grades are important, no kidding. But there is a lot more to life than just academic grades.

What is your opinion on this issue? I would like to hear from Asians and Non-asians.

11-11-2013, 08:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
RL Clown Music Addict Join Date: Apr 2013 Posts: 182	Traditional Asian Parents Before I start, let me make myself clear... I did not create this thread out of anger or sadness. I am not racist. The reason I made this thread is because I am looking for answers... I do not understand why Asian parents demand so much from their children. My Asian parents are only satisfied when I bring home A grades. They will not tolerate B's, C's, or anything that is lower. When I bring home a C, my parents act as if I have just committed a crime. I understand that my parents put a roof over my head and they give me food. To a degree, I owe them (no kidding). But if you had parents who constantly told you that you have to get an A in every course, wouldn't you find this irritating? Besides, I have already paid my parents back... I mow the lawn, I shovel the snow, I prepare the table for dinner almost everyday. I have received some A's in Accounting and Business courses. But for some reason, to a degree, my parents act as if I am never good enough for them. I know that there are some exceptions... There are some Asian parents who are very tolerant and permissive... They allow their sons/daughters to go to the movies and hang out with their friends. But generally speaking, when I look at first generation Asian immigrant parents, I find that they are very conservative. Again, why do Asian parents demand so much from their sons/daughters? Let's look at the excuse... "Asian parents came from countries where life was really hard... In these countries, human beings were used. Human beings were sold. Human beings were exploited." But black people and latinos also come from developing countries. Black people and latinos are a lot more permissive than Asian parents. (Generally speaking, it's true.) I am not saying that Asian parents are evil. However there are times when I think that they are too conservative. I think that I am speaking for millions of Asian children... Asian parents need to change their way of thinking. They need to become more tolerant. They need to allow their sons/daughters to have a social life. Academic grades are important, no kidding. But there is a lot more to life than just academic grades. What is your opinion on this issue? I would like to hear from Asians and Non-asians.