I would like to announce that I am pansexual and non binary. My pronouns are she/her. I love decorating the library for pride every February and am currently working on what type of events to hold next year for different age groups. If anyone has any cool ideas let me know. :)

Hello :) I am gender non conforming myself I go by he or they pronouns. Congratulations on finding yourself and feeling comfortable enough to post about it on here!

Thanks Tristan! Nice to hear you're on the same page, it's good to have allies :love::beer:

Cool, nice to meet you! I have a complicated relationship with my gender so I admire that you figured yourself out like that. (I'm a strongly tomboyish person, I identify as a girl but that's more or less just because it's the default option. I'm comfortable with any pronoun/label I guess.)
Also decorating a library sounds like life goals

Libraries are for masturbating, not decorating.

Nice to meet you too Marie! I tell you what it was not an easy process. I only came out to my parents 2 years ago. We had all been indoctrinated into the Catholic then Christian religious dogma, and have all finally let that brain washing go. We are now all non-religious, just spiritual which means they could accept my sexuality as normal, not what religion claims it to be. I initially said I was bisexual which I had felt since I was 14 but then realised after having a nearly relationship with a female to male person I was pansexual and would be with anyone no matter what gender, sexuality, ethnicity, assigned gender. Only recently I realised I am non binary, I don't feel like either assigned genders and don't want to be restricted by them. I believe as we learn more about ourselves and be honest about our feelings that our true forms will eventuate. I admire what you have identified as, I am very girly physically but am tomboyish in many other ways. I try to not associate hobbies or behaviours as belonging to a particular gender, I just am.



I will say, that has happened in a local library near my suburb :pssst:

Related to this, a nice thing about the english language is you have a word that describes whether your body would produce large or small gametes (sex) and another for what you identify as in terms of social characteristics (gender).

In norwegian, there's only one word covering all that. In a dumb way, it makes any discussion on the topic a lot harder.

So a lot of Terfwegians?

Weird. Even Croatian has both. And we poor.

I mean it's -50 below and your dick's in your pelvis is there any difference between sex and gender?

Lewis Hamilton praised after wearing rainbow helmet in Qatar GP practice

This is kind of cool. The rich and the famous can and should be agents of change, considering their privileged status.

Is it just me or more and more women are coming out as queer (mainly bi, lesbian or pan)? I think its partly that men are very hard to be around (they have the audacity) and when married/partners to women they use weaponised incompetence.

weaponized incompetence


When a person acts like they have no idea how to do something even though they definitely do. They do this so that later on they can act like they're the master at either to impress someone or get praise. Also known as strategic incompetence
"I don't know how to do that, you do it"
"Stop lying, everyone knows how to change a tire, weaponized incompetence is why you have no girlfriend"
"Fine, (murmurs cartoon profanities)"
by HumongousBazongas AvadaKedavra December 21, 2021




https://www.urbandictionary.com/defi...20incompetence

Based workplace behavior though.

I think a lot of people think it's just not worth it to come out and I tend to agree.

I'm not sure you understand how sexuality works.

Depends on your circumstances, it's probably not wise to come out if you know the reaction in your immediate surroundings will be negative and it could impact your life severely. If it's down only to your family or toxic friends, it's probably best you get away from those elements in any case...

I don't think I ever heard of people regretting coming out if they chose to. Normally it's a huge relief and a burden off your shoulders.

Unquestionably there are positives to coming out as well, of course, and what you said about the negatives is also true. However, I am under the impression that, in general, almost everyone gets a nasty, negative reaction, especially when there are people out there who will use information against you the second something goes wrong. I dislike generalities, but I think it's tough to ignore this one.

I come from a conservative family on a small island in Eastern Europe and didn't actually get a negative reaction from anyone, including my right wing catholic family.

I don't know if you're speaking about your personal situation but most people also tend to imagine much worse things happening than what actually ends up happening when they come out. I think it's not that common to have a violently negative reaction from your family members, they really have to be a little crazy to do that. And even for society at large, especially in the developed west, it's more common for people to keep their retrograde opinions to themselves.

It's also a matter of self-respect. People who choose to come out are normally tired of lying to others about who they are.

Just my experience of course.

Yeah, some people get horrible reactions when they come out, but in the more progressive parts of the world that happens less and less, fortunately. I didn't have bad experiences either. And for me a bad experience would have had to be really severe to outweigh the good aspects. Personally I don't know anyone who didn't consider themselves better off for coming out afaik

You guys sound lucky, then.

You can always kill your family with an ice pick.

Not really dude, I would say most people (in the more developed parts of the world) have mostly positive experiences. It isn't the 1950s, people are getting more and more used to queer people being a part of society.

If you have a loving relationship with your family, even if they are conservative, chances are that they will not go bonkers at the news that you're queer. Maybe they'll be disappointed because they expected something different, but getting cut off is unlikely to happen.

Anyways, hopefully some time in the not so distant future, people won't have to weigh the pros and cons of coming out. :/

Exactly. You would say that.

Yeah, addidasss. You Croatians have all the luck.

I was gonna say "not in the bible belt" but you said developed parts of the world so nvm.

Ugh, Florida.

Specifically Florida parental groups in this case.

I realise I hadn't included they/them as my pronouns on that post. I am happy with t/t or s/h so won't be offended if you don't call me t/t.



Anyone know the best way to meet women, either websites or apps that is for a dating (not a place to meet for sex)?

If we are asking specifically it is she/her for me


Still a bit gay for vanilla

:bowdown:
My queen, I have always thought you are intelligent, beautiful and will be gay for you any day. :love:

This is exciting. Seems like the best produced queer show to come along in a while. I've watched both the original UK version and the US remake and they were transformative. It probably won't have the same effect on today's generation of queer people but it's nice to see how the media landscape is getting more and more diverse and inclusive.

Isaiah Rashad Says He Identifies as “Sexually Fluid” in New Interview

So basically, this guy has been forcefully outed when some of his sex videos leaked (I guess). The problem is that he is a guy, and a rapper, and so forced to deal with a notoriously homophobic industry (difficult to be a successful rapper and like dick at the same time, unless you caught a lucky break like Lil Nas X and became too huge to be cancelled before you came out).

Queer History Links

tinyurl.com/mtr47thz

http://www.smh.com.au/national/a-sec...220-2bp9m.html

https://www.theguardian.com/society/...he-rape-of-men

https://sourcebooks.fordham.edu/pwh/gayhistbib.asp

Omg yusss thank you for sharing that I'm adding it to my watch list! :clap::bowdown:

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The real reason they eat crayons.

never ate crayons lol

edit lol