Bullying

YorkeDaddy · 04-08-2014, 01:42 PM

I was only picked on briefly in like sixth grade and it was because my jeans were too short or something, whatever that means. No one would ever try to get physical with me because they knew I had no problem fighting back.

Other than that, I pretty much liked everybody and everybody was pretty fine with me throughout middle and high school. I was proud to have friends in all cliques so it was easy.

I naturally have a deep hatred for physical bullying, especially because it's often the fat behemoths that weighed 160 as a fourth grader going up against the shrimps that weighed 80. How is that fair? Cyber bullying and all that stuff is a touchie subject but I don't have any sort of interesting opinion to add to the matter so that's all I got.

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 04-08-2014, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

I have indeed experienced this.

Not as badly as some. But still bullied none the less.

The only twist with my bully, (the one I had my entire childhood and teenage years)
My bully and I met each other again, as grown women, we had been through it all as kids and teenagers, fist fights, excessive shouting when we would see one another all that ****. She'd call me ******, I'd call her a *** guzzling street walker, sunrise sunset.
Anyway we met again at the age of 25 we both were working at the same place. Over the course of about a month the girl managed to work the courage and talk to me. And the first day she did say something it was not at all what I thought it was gonna be.
What she said is classified, but just know over that entire summer we worked together, we became inseparable, she even became my roommate for a bit when her boyfriend kicked her out.

As far as the internet is concerned, the internet has been kind to me all my life. I am not too sure why, not complaining by any means at all, just can't figure that one out. It's easier to bully someone through the anonymity of a computer knowing, you will mostly never run into that person, and have to put your money where your mouth is.

Wow that's really good that you guys worked it out.

I was bullied by guys mainly. They would call me ugly, white bait (my pale skin), one guy in particular used to sing to me: "got to put on my shades cause your legs are so white". I was called a slut by one girl so I called her one back and she lost it lol (her friend apologised to me amazingly). Another group of girls that were at the school near my house used to follow me home and prank called me a lot. They said I called one of the girls a slut which I didn't and threatened to give me a hiding. I told my folks and my mom told their principal and they got in big trouble. They never bothered me again.

I definitely think I got it pretty easy compared to some people but I used to have so many rumours spread around about me: one boob bigger than the other, stuffing my bra, signing up to a dating site, that I was a lesbian, all of which were not true (apart from boob being slightly bigger than the other). I did make out with many girls because I was questioning my sexuality but never went any further. I got teased right throughout school but I took it really well, it built up my confidence and although people were calling me a skank I still had great fun as a teenager meeting lots of new people and doing the party thing. My school had retreats (it was a Catholic school) and we had to write nice things about each other and basically all of them said that I was funny, outgoing and kind so that was nice.

I definitely think that it is possible to stop bullies from bullying people but it's dependent on the bully, their life and why they are doing it. Boys get bullied physically and girls tend to get shut out from friends, hassled online and verbally. But there is also girls that get physical.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 04-08-2014, 02:10 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

Oops. I meant to write "That wouldn't happen in America."

No probs Batty

RoxyRollah · 04-08-2014, 02:15 PM

Ahh the cyber bully. Yes. Right like I said the internet has been unreasonably kind to me over the years. Maybe because it knows I have stuck with it since the days of the dial tone, hiss, and MIRC. I dunno.

But I see it. I understand it. And I don't think it makes the bullying any less real for the bully or the bullied. I kinda feel like if the internet is the only place someone feels excepted whether they are socially awkward, live on an island, or whatever I feel like they should have this space to be themselves, and not be subject to the mockery and ridicule of others, that is un-welcomed. That's the key word, right there un-welcomed. They is always going to be playful jokes, or tasteless comments, and there is always going to be that one ******* that really ****s with you. But mostly I think with cyber bullying there is things that can be done to prevent it on both sides of the argument.

The bully should really sit back and realize that while yes, that person does indeed look like a beached beluga in those shorts and the God awful tube top, they don't need to necessarily tell that person that.

And the bullied really should ask themselves is this a picture of myself I want to live on in infamy? No? Ok good delete. I mean that is just common sense right there.

I write **** left and right, poetry, songs and ****. Do I clutter up Mb with it, good heavens no, not because I don't want to, but because I know I am not comfortable accepting criticism in that area of my life. I am comfortable posting in a journal (which I need to stop slacking on) about music I like and why I like it. But I am not comfortable sharing my soul with you guys. (Not all of you anyway.) So I don't put it up there. Everybody wins, you guys don't have to try and think of something nice to say, and I don't have to fret that no one will have something nice to say.

Same goes with the match making thread earlier. I was astounded by the amount of people that thought something that was created in good fun could be harmful to peoples self esteem, yet some of the people in the thread doing the bitching ended up really hurting a participant that had no problem with the thread. I was completely flabbergasted by the irony. I dunno I try to get on with everybody. **** do I know though. I like you all, honest to God. (Even WpN) NOW HOW BOUT THAT MOTHA****AS? BOOOYAH!

djchameleon · 04-08-2014, 02:20 PM

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Originally Posted by YorkeDaddy

I was only picked on briefly in like sixth grade and it was because my jeans were too short or something, whatever that means.

were you rocking high water jeans?

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Originally Posted by YorkeDaddy

Other than that, I pretty much liked everybody and everybody was pretty fine with me throughout middle and high school. I was proud to have friends in all cliques so it was easy.

Yes same here. It was the best strategy to be able to roll through most of the cliques and have contacts with at least one or two people in each one.

I feel like getting bullied is a rite of passage that ends up helping people to be able to cope with bullies/aggressive people later on in life. I do recognize that bullying nowadays is on a whole other level though with having the bullying situation follow you home basically and crossing over into cyber bullying.

FRED HALE SR. · 04-08-2014, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

Ahh the cyber bully. Yes. Right like I said the internet has been unreasonably kind to me over the years. Maybe because it knows I have stuck with it since the days of the dial tone, hiss, and MIRC. I dunno.

But I see it. I understand it. And I don't think it makes the bullying any less real for the bully or the bullied. I kinda feel like if the internet is the only place someone feels excepted whether they are socially awkward, live on an island, or whatever I feel like they should have this space to be themselves, and not be subject to the mockery and ridicule of others, that is un-welcomed. That's the key word, right there un-welcomed. They is always going to be playful jokes, or tasteless comments, and there is always going to be that one ******* that really ****s with you. But mostly I think with cyber bullying there is things that can be done to prevent it on both sides of the argument.

The bully should really sit back and realize that while yes, that person does indeed look like a beached beluga in those shorts and the God awful tube top, they don't need to necessarily tell that person that.

And the bullied really should ask themselves is this a picture of myself I want to live on in infamy? No? Ok good delete. I mean that is just common sense right there.

I write **** left and right, poetry, songs and ****. Do I clutter up Mb with it, good heavens no, not because I don't want to, but because I know I am not comfortable accepting criticism in that area of my life. I am comfortable posting in a journal (which I need to stop slacking on) about music I like and why I like it. But I am not comfortable sharing my soul with you guys. (Not all of you anyway.) So I don't put it up there. Everybody wins, you guys don't have to try and think of something nice to say, and I don't have to fret that no one will have something nice to say.

Same goes with the match making thread earlier. I was astounded by the amount of people that thought something that was created in good fun could be harmful to peoples self esteem, yet some of the people in the thread doing the bitching ended up really hurting a participant that had no problem with the thread. I was completely flabbergasted by the irony. I dunno I try to get on with everybody. **** do I know though. I like you all, honest to God. (Even WpN) NOW HOW BOUT THAT MOTHA****AS? BOOOYAH!

TLDR

RoxyRollah · 04-08-2014, 02:45 PM

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Originally Posted by FRED HALE SR.

TLDR

Im sorry I dunno what that means.First day on this brave new contraption called the inter web.....

No really? Whuut?

YorkeDaddy · 04-08-2014, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by djchameleon

were you rocking high water jeans?

No it wasn't that severe haha, they only rose up above my shoes when I was sitting down. Wasn't my fault my parents made me wear jeans a little longer than everyone else before buying me new pairs when I was growing :P

Kids were stupid in 6th grade.

Black Francis · 04-08-2014, 02:58 PM

ive been on both sides of the field ive been bullied and been the bully (not a cruel one though)

And though a bully can make your life a living hell i think confronting your bully can teach you an important life lesson

imo the real damage a bully does is more emotional than physical, Punches hurt but living in fear is what really gets you

i successfully dealed with bigger bullies than me by turning their posee against them, i would ridicule them with words that made his own friends laugh at him, yea you might be stronger than me but you ain't smarter

One bully i painted as a ***, i would tell him "What's your obsession with me? i don't give a **** about you but you're always bothering me, you in love with me or something?"

Even most bullies fear social pressure so if you can figure out how to use that against him you could beat him without throwing a simple punch

doesn't work in every case though, i once had to threaten a bully with a knife
Good thing he backed out cause i was gonna stab him for real.

Two Spirit · 04-08-2014, 04:30 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah

Im sorry I dunno what that means.First day on this brave new contraption called the inter web.....

No really? Whuut?

It means "Too long, didn't read."

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Black Francis Out of Place Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: in an abstract house Posts: 4,111	ive been on both sides of the field ive been bullied and been the bully (not a cruel one though) And though a bully can make your life a living hell i think confronting your bully can teach you an important life lesson imo the real damage a bully does is more emotional than physical, Punches hurt but living in fear is what really gets you i successfully dealed with bigger bullies than me by turning their posee against them, i would ridicule them with words that made his own friends laugh at him, yea you might be stronger than me but you ain't smarter One bully i painted as a *, i would tell him "What's your obsession with me? i don't give a about you but you're always bothering me, you in love with me or something?" Even most bullies fear social pressure so if you can figure out how to use that against him you could beat him without throwing a simple punch doesn't work in every case though, i once had to threaten a bully with a knife Good thing he backed out cause i was gonna stab him for real. __________________ "Hey Kids you got to meet the MIGHTY PIXIES!"** http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JbRbCtIgW3A Last edited by Black Francis; 04-08-2014 at 05:28 PM.