The Confessional Thread

~~John Wilkes Booth~~ · 02-01-2015, 03:50 PM

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Pet_Sounds · 02-01-2015, 03:58 PM

If they've led a good life and you've had a chance to spend time with them, there's no reason to feel guilt and no shame in not feeling great sadness. The reason I was so broken up when my aunt died was that I'd only known her for eighteen months.
I'm really bad at consoling and cheering up people in general.

If you don't mind me asking, have you lost someone?

~~Cuthbert~~ · 02-01-2015, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Pet_Sounds

If they've led a good life and you've had a chance to spend time with them, there's no reason to feel guilt and no shame in not feeling great sadness. The reason I was so broken up when my aunt died was that I'd only known her for eighteen months.
I'm really bad at consoling and cheering up people in general.

If you don't mind me asking, have you lost someone?

Cheers mate.

Your q: It's likely a relative will die sooner rather than later. I got the news earlier and didn't know how to respond or feel. Then I felt bad cos I felt like I wasn't that arsed when I should be.

I have lost a close relative in the past, same then, but that's not what made me post in this thread.

~~John Wilkes Booth~~ · 02-01-2015, 04:34 PM

in my experience it's best to just take it as it comes. don't repress grief intentionally but don't conjure it up for the sake of it either. just make sure to let the person in question know how you feel about them before it's too late.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 02-01-2015, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth

in my experience it's best to just take it as it comes. don't repress grief intentionally but don't conjure it up for the sake of it either. just make sure to let the person in question know how you feel about them before it's too late.

That's really helpful, especially the last bit.

Cheers mate

DwnWthVwls · 02-01-2015, 04:43 PM

JWB, Batlord, Frownland, and I just finished our porn sharing circle jerk. It was awesome. JWB was a little uncomfortable.

The Batlord · 02-01-2015, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth

in my experience it's best to just take it as it comes. don't repress grief intentionally but don't conjure it up for the sake of it either. just make sure to let the person in question know how you feel about them before it's too late.

Although it can't hurt faking it just a bit when someone who's all weepy assumes you're all weepy too, just on the inside. Don't gotta pretend to be all sad, just commiserate a bit until they go away.

Key · 02-01-2015, 05:48 PM

Of course my thoughts on the matter are just ignored

I made the same point that Pet Sounds made.

~~Cuthbert~~ · 02-01-2015, 05:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Ki

Of course my thoughts on the matter are just ignored

I made the same point that Pet Sounds made.

Wasn't ignoring pal, I just had nothing to add.

<3

~~John Wilkes Booth~~ · 02-01-2015, 05:59 PM

@ batlord

i do show sympathy to sad people, i just try not to let them bring me down with them

but i don't think there's any right answer to how specifically to act. everyone reacts to stuff in their own way

@ vwls

i was only uncomfortable cause you kept making passes at me

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Pet_Sounds Remember the underscore Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: The other side Posts: 2,489	If they've led a good life and you've had a chance to spend time with them, there's no reason to feel guilt and no shame in not feeling great sadness. The reason I was so broken up when my aunt died was that I'd only known her for eighteen months. I'm really bad at consoling and cheering up people in general. If you don't mind me asking, have you lost someone? __________________ Everybody's dying just to get the disease

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~~John Wilkes Booth~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Jul 2013 Posts: 2,235	in my experience it's best to just take it as it comes. don't repress grief intentionally but don't conjure it up for the sake of it either. just make sure to let the person in question know how you feel about them before it's too late.

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Key . Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 13,153	Of course my thoughts on the matter are just ignored I made the same point that Pet Sounds made.

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~~John Wilkes Booth~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Jul 2013 Posts: 2,235	@ batlord i do show sympathy to sad people, i just try not to let them bring me down with them but i don't think there's any right answer to how specifically to act. everyone reacts to stuff in their own way @ vwls i was only uncomfortable cause you kept making passes at me