The coming out thread - Take II

[The Batlord]

I got a 1. Or a 0. Or whatever the **** is pure hetero. White, male, and straight. Now if only I was Protestant I could be President. A high school diploma would probably also help.

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

Well, after watching the girl in that video I can be sure that I'm not gay. Me-ow.

But seriously, this whole homophobia thing doesn't just hurt the non-heteros. If I hadn't of experimented a bit I would have been paranoid that I was gay just for the fact that I wasn't disgusted by gay sex. Sexuality is confusing enough without the BS, and all I want is to know what kind of porn to jerk off to so I can get back to playing video games.

I know she's super hot. I kind of have a crush on her.

Originally Posted by James

I'm just not a very sexual person. I can only really get into sex if there's a lot of meaning and feeling behind it. Love gets me off.

That's really cool. I'm all for love but at the same time I love sex so don't always have to have love involved. Especially because I've only genuinely loved two guys. I get bored of men very easily.

Originally Posted by Sansa Stark

Good looking men with great personalities are a lot more difficult to find than hot women with great personalities though, its tragic, I feel bad for straight girls.

This. Which is why I find 95% of men boring. Women are far more interesting.

[DwnWthVwls]

I've found the exact opposite to be true. The less attractive chicks I know have almost always been more fun to joke around or have an intelligent conversation with than the "hot" ones.

I hear it's different in other states and outside the US, but in NJ it's pretty ****ing miserable. TBQH, the Jersey Shore isn't that far from reality of the bar/club scene around here, and the reason I would never go to one to try and find a girl or new friends.

[Rjinn]

Originally Posted by Vanilla

I thought this video was a great way to help people realise that bisexuality is acceptable and not just "a phase":



And I don't believe that everyone knows what there sexuality is, there are many confused people (like me) and it can years to know what you feel you are (sexually) inside. It's great if you do know, but for people who don't, telling them "how hard is it to know" is a bit simplistic.

Bis just don't know what they want OMGAH PICK ONE ALREADY!

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by Rjinn

Bis just don't know what they want OMGAH PICK ONE ALREADY!

Ikr!

[GuD]

soooo

I've decided that before October ends I need to tell my family about the fact that I'm struggling with gender dysphoria. I can't deal anymore. I want to wear bright red lipstick. I want to wear mascara. I want to cross my legs and hold my chin on my fist femininely while I enjoy my favorite cup of coffee at my favorite cafe.

I went to the beach today in makeup, shortshorts, and my favorite bright pink button up shirt. I didn't shave my legs or anythng because fvckyou, women have body hair it's not that big of a deal so get over it you chauvanistic fvcks. For a while I felt good. Really good. But, about halfway up the beach I started getting stalked by these disgusting motherfvcking brodude transplants that had that "we're gonna jump and rob you, you fvcking faggot" look in their eyes and I was fvcking terrified. I don't understand what's happening to my city. This is supposed to be a safe place for people like me. Why are these ugly, repulsive, subhuman "lifeforms" even alive? Let alone living in SF? Go back to whereever the fvck it is you're from, take your brodude buds with you and have your fvcking brewskies and casual sex with predominantly ignorant and self-loathing women somewhere else. I had my knife on me, I never leave as Kelly without it. And frankly I don't know what I would've done if they attacked me.

I am really scared. I don't know how my folks are going to react. They've said things that are transphobic before and it really concerns me. I remember my mom's girlfriend saying something about me to the extent of "so what, you can't handle the fact that you're a faggot so you have to dress up in drag and fvck lesbians instead???" She was wasted at the time but still. I'm really worried. My family and the short list of friends I have here are literally all I have and it would emotionally bankrupt me if my fam bailed on me. I'm in a really uncomfortable way right now and I really need any and all advice anyone here can spare because I can't fvcking deal right now. I can't.

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by WhateverDude

women have body hair it's not that big of a deal so get over it you chauvanistic fvcks.

First of all, body hair is pretty gross on guys too. Body hair is just very iffy in general. I don't always mind it on a girl, but there are certainly caveats. If you're an Irish girl, and you have Irish girl hair, shave. Irish body hair is not attractive on anyone. Just because it's something that's stressed more for women doesn't mean that it's chauvinistic to not like hair on a woman's legs.

I am really scared. I don't know how my folks are going to react. They've said things that are transphobic before and it really concerns me. I remember my mom's girlfriend saying something about me to the extent of "so what, you can't handle the fact that you're a faggot so you have to dress up in drag and fvck lesbians instead???" She was wasted at the time but still. I'm really worried. My family and the short list of friends I have here are literally all I have and it would emotionally bankrupt me if my fam bailed on me. I'm in a really uncomfortable way right now and I really need any and all advice anyone here can spare because I can't fvcking deal right now. I can't.

Maybe I'm being prejudiced, but the fact that your moms are gay has got to count for something. Even if they're not particularly supportive, I doubt they're going to be THAT hypocritical to not be at least vaguely accepting of alternate lifestyles. They might act like pricks, but I highly doubt they'd "bail" on you. I imagine they'd come around eventually.

And besides, you drink far too much for it to just be social. I always kind of assumed you had something weighing on your soul for you to be as tanked as you are all the time. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if stressing over this whole cross-dressing thing was part of the reason for your drinking. If so, then keeping it inside is the last thing you should do. Just for your liver if nothing else.

[DwnWthVwls]

^Agreed. I don't know your family but hopefully they aren't hypocritical considering the stigma attached to homosexuality in the past 20+ years.

[tommy gun]

Hope everything goes well with your family, WD. Coming out can be really scary.

[Exo]

Originally Posted by The Batlord

And besides, you drink far too much for it to just be social. I always kind of assumed you had something weighing on your soul for you to be as tanked as you are all the time. I wouldn't be the least bit surprised if stressing over this whole cross-dressing thing was part of the reason for your drinking. If so, then keeping it inside is the last thing you should do. Just for your liver if nothing else.

I'm pulling for your family and friends to support you and all that. That **** is important. However, THIS is such a fantastic reason to come out dude. You drink WAY too much and it's going to kill you one day if you keep going like this. The longer you wait the more stressed out you will get. Your gender dysphoria isn't going to get better it's most likely going to get more progressive and you're going to drink a sh*t ton if you don't feel comfortable with it.

Save your life dude. Change your life for the good of your life. Excellent point Batlord.