The coming out thread - Take II

[[MERIT]]

Originally Posted by Trollheart

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Luka_Modri%C4%87

One man can kick a soccer ball. The other can kick your head off your body. I go with CroCop.

[adidasss]

Originally Posted by [MERIT]

I'm glad that you found some happiness adidasss!

Sidenote: Is Mirko "CroCop" Filipovic still the most famous person to come out of Croatia? LOL

Originally Posted by Trollheart

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Luka_Modri%C4%87

Depends what you're into, if you're into MMA and are from the US or Japan, then Mirko probably. If you're in the rest of the world, then Luka.

Originally Posted by grindy

Really happy for you, adi.
Eastern-europeans are indeed often ridiculous about homosexuality and it's good to hear that things went relatively well for you. Can't even imagine how my dad would react if I were gay. He's totally brainwashed by this whole conservative putin-loving orthodox **** that's currently so popular in the former USSR.

Whereabouts are you/your dad from?

I was quite worried also about my dad's reaction as he exhibited nothing be extreme homophobia until he found out about me. Things tend to change once you realize your prejudice applies to your own flesh and blood. It's a lot harder to suddenly hate someone you've known and loved (I guess) your whole life.

[grindy]

We're from the Ukraine but have been living in Germany for many years now.

[adidasss]

Originally Posted by adidasss

My brother on the other hand, I thought was ok with the whole story, turns out still can't really get over it so he mostly avoids us when we come home. But the best twist in this story is that, a few months ago, his only daughter, my niece, came out to me and my sister as a lesbian!! My mind was fucking blown away, I had NO idea!!

So, now it's her turn to come out to the rest of the family, including her homophobic parents. It will be interesting, she is my parents' only granddaughter (my brother has a son also)...

So a small update re: the situation with my brother. My niece later revealed to me that her father (my brother) at some point, while drunk (he's an alcoholic), told her to just please not be like me. So that's gonna be a lot of fun when they find out...

At some point, my niece had some problems with her psycho parents and she ran away from her house (not permanently, just to escape the argument) to ours. Later on, my brother's wife scolded her for this, because, among other things, that's where that "***got" lives.

So, our relationship is souring more and more, but we were still officially pretending that everything was fine. Since I'm the only one of my family not living in my home town, we have connected via whatsup, there was a group where all of us brothers and my niece and nephew were in. And that lasted for some months before all of a sudden, I guess in some drunken stupor, my brother decided to send a video in this group that someone made to make fun of a couple of (left wing, he is obviously right wing) Croatian politicians who came out in the newspapers for domestic abuse (they weren't out until then). There was a lot of "***got" thrown around in the video.

I was quite shocked, so was my youngest sister (who is my biggest ally). I didn't see the video until the next day because of the time difference and she was the only one who said anything about it which also speaks volumes about the level of true acceptance and care the the rest of my siblings have towards me and my sexuality (which is basically it's fine as long as there's no issues, then you're on your own).

Of course when I saw it, I calmly let him know that I too was a "***got" in case he had forgotten and didn't find anything amusing about the video. And then left the group. And unfriended him on facebook.

Now his hypocrite of a wife is trying to reestablish contact over facebook.

I never had a very close relationship with him, primarily because he's 10 years older and moved out and started a family while I was still a kid. But also because he's a typical hetero macho dude, and we have nothing in common (especially since he's turned into an alcoholic).

I don't need to have a relationship with either one of them except for my niece and nephew whom I like (and who are severely traumatized by living with their crazy dysfunctional parents).

I'm going home in a few weeks, the first time after a year, and after this happened (which was some months ago now). It will be curious to see how this will all develop and what his attitude will be if we see each other in person. :/

[OccultHawk]

How old is your niece?

[adidasss]

24 but still in college, studying to be a dentist, hence still living at home. :/

[OccultHawk]

Tight situation but I’m glad she’s not like 13 or some ****.

[adidasss]

My nephew is exactly 13 so he still has a lot to go in enduring the home situation. Niece is going to therapy to deal with that shit so I imagine that's where he's headed. So it goes...:/

[Marie Monday]

Damn adi your family sounds so problematic, it must have been horrible growing up in that environment. Luckily you created a new family for yourself by finding love, I guess

[The Batlord]

Originally Posted by Marie Monday

Damn adi your family sounds so problematic, it must have been horrible growing up in that environment. Luckily you created a new family for yourself by finding love, I guess

That's a rather charitable view of MB but whatever.