The coming out thread - Take II

[Paedantic Basterd]

I have a hard time accepting it when women claim themselves bisexual, because I was involved with a lot of people in my peer group who claimed bisexuality for the attention it afforded them. I can't count on one hand the friends I had who were lesbians that dated men, and never one another (although all of them said they would screw one another). It's one of those things that has been tarnished by social dishonesty, and as a result I don't often take it seriously, I'm afraid to say.

Originally Posted by CanwllCorfe

I'm not gay, but I had a lot of people (especially in High School) assume I was or ask me out of curiosity. I remember in a Photography class two of the students were SO sure I was gay.

People in my highschool thought I was gay too, and I can't really blame them looking back. Really though, it wasn't that I wasn't interested in men, I was just surrounded by assholes.

[Above]

There is quite a phenomena of female bisexuality as soon as we get to college. I'm not complaining. Two sets of boobs is always better than one.

[Scarlett O'Hara]

Originally Posted by Pedestrian

People in my highschool thought I was gay too, and I can't really blame them looking back. Really though, it wasn't that I wasn't interested in men, I was just surrounded by assholes.

The gay rumour went around about me too but then everyone found out I lost my virginity to a guy two years above me at high school. I had sexual desire to girls back when I was 17, I pashed a girl that I thought was absolutely beautiful and then when 18 I hooked up with my hairdresser at the time, but now I'm sure I'm 95% straight. Girls are great kissers though.

[ThePhanastasio]

Although I was able to come to terms with my sexuality while in college, gender identity is something I've always had issues with.

Many a time, I've read about transgender folks, and thought that it didn't quite seem to fit me, but it wasn't far off, either. I've never really been able to identify with girls, though. I don't understand how their minds work, and all of my close friends are guys. When I hang out with friends and one of them mentions that I'm a girl, I honestly feel kind of irritated, because I always feel like I'm just one of the guys.

With that said, I don't feel like I'm completely male, nor that I should be biologically male. This is why I never was able to label myself as transgender; for the most part, my physical identity has always been fine by me. I have no desire to have a penis, nor do I desire to dress like a man. My mind, however, has always felt predominately male. With men, I can always feel where they're coming from, and it's always been easier for me to empathize with males. As a child, I was likely to spend my recess playing games with the boys, chasing the girls, and talking about baseball and Goosebumps books. Conversation always flowed naturally with the guys, but always felt uncomfortable and confusing with girls. But I've almost always kept my hair fairly long, taken care with my make-up when I go out, and attempted to wear clothes that were more femininely flattering. The idea of even dressing completely tomboy-ishly or cutting my hair off, not wearing make-up...that doesn't appeal to me in the slightest, because that doesn't feel like me.

What I'm saying is that I'm really trying to come to terms with my gender identity...I'm not too sure what I am. I'm physically female, identify as physically female, but mentally, I feel more like a male. I suppose the term most typically used is gender queer, but I'm really not sure if that's correct.

The closest I can come right now to understanding it is that "I'm Sara."

[Howard the Duck]

i don't really have any transgender issues, i'm completely comfortable with being a man

i am however, metrosexual, and has a few feminine traits

[Above]

I actually have a hard time convincing people that I'm gay. Apparently I'm really straight acting which is like what no have a purse.

[Key]

Originally Posted by Above

I actually have a hard time convincing people that I'm gay. Apparently I'm really straight acting which is like what no have a purse.

It's not your issue if you can't convince people. It's the people who aren't open to other people's views that are the issue. The only persons opinion that matters is your own.

And I apologize if that came off as preachy, it wasn't my intention, i'm just saying is all, with the most sincerity I can give.

[Aperture Science]

This is going to be a big shock to most who have met me here already today: I'm gay.

How I ended up here is kinda a long-winded story, but you're not going to be trapped on a couch for nine years like Ted Moseby's children.

As far back as I can remember I was attracted to males. The male physique especially,. I can't put a precise date on this, but 'twas prolly around 9 or 10. I never really gave it much thought of consideration at the time because I just assumed I was straight and that was just the way it was. I lost my virginity pretty early, In a pretty..random chance encounter with a friend of mine..and this was a recurring thing for a little bit but again even though I clearly was attracted to guys I just never gave it any consideration because as a male only child that's what I was expected to be.

Most of high school (from what I remember) I continued under the assumption I was straight. I never dated girls irl but I online dated a girl who I'm still really close friends with.

Around 07 i kinda started talking to guys online, messing around with guys online and stuff, which opened up the possibility that I might be bi. All I remember from that period (spring 07-fall 09) was going back and forth between thinking I'm bi and I'm gay. I think that in my mind I thought coming out as bi would be more acceptable to my parents, because there might "still be some hope" or whatever.


This was my first "coming out experience" Like I mentioned in the orientation thread, I tested the waters by coming out first as bi and then as gay to people I knew online.

There wasn't a single light bulb moment..but I guess I just realized that...I don't have any desire to be sexually intimate with a woman.

My first coming out experience with a person irl was in a car with two of my friends from college..it was really awkward cause..we were talking about something relating to dating..like maybe it was us going on a triple date and I made some comment offhand, and one of them just straight up asked me..and the rest of the car ride home, which was only a Ew minutes, was just..silent..and afterward I had to go someplace for a class meeting, leaving the whole situation open and awkward..I talked to one of the guys on Skype during the meeting and afterward him and I went for a walk and I essentially came out to him..I eventually came out to the other friend in the car later, and they were both amazingly supportive about it.

The next couple months i came out to friends at home, the rest of my college friends, and immediate family.

Almost everybody was amazingly wonderful about it all. I feel blessed, as a gay man to have such wonderful and supportive friends and family and blah blah. Haha

Anyway that's all I have for now..I think

Okbye

[Dulce]

I seriously respect everyone's sexuality. I do not judge a book by it's cover. I mind my own business.

[Scarlett O'Hara]

I look back on my post and think, how do you know if your gay/bisexual? For those that are, what made you realise you were attracted to the same sex?