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10-17-2016 03:14 PM |
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Originally Posted by Ki
(Post 1759110)
I suppose I'm lucky that it happened the way it did to me then so that I'm not stuck in the middle. I'm not shaming anybody for anybody as I've done my fair share, but that's just my insight that I don't feel it's a one sided issue when it comes to cheating.
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Oh yeah for sure, and I know that if I was in the other guy's or your position id be devastated and rightfully pissed. I don't think this whole thing has really sunk in yet either. Its been a whirlwind couple weeks; I might have a better understanding of where my heads really at when this all gets closer to resolution.
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Originally Posted by The Batlord
(Post 1759113)
I think the old saying, "all's fair in love and war" is true. Life is so ****ing hard, and so full of misery, that finding any joy, especially true, important joy, is worth far more than just "the bro code" or whatever. If this girl means something to you, and you mean something to her, then even if the situation is not ideal, you can't just say, "well this is morally dubious so I'm just not gonna pursue it cause it would be mean."
If this girl is important to you then you should clamp on like an oyster and **** everybody else.
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I agree with you overall I think, but there are a few wrinkles in my situation that muddy the waters a bit. She absolutely means a lot to me, whether as just a friend or more, but I can see the logic behind this not working out for us. One major point is shes got 3 kids, one of which she had with her current bf and I mean im just some dumb guy with little knowledge in that department who still goes on drunk benders. So I mean this wouldn't be a small commitment, especially for someone like me whos uh not the best at relationships. Ive talked myself through being down for this, but certainly from her view this might not look ideal.
Ive got the feeling that shes either decided to stick it out with her bf and not tell me, or hasn't decided yet and is leaving both doors a bit open (though we have stopped sleeping together for the time being). Either way, as much as I would like something good to come from this, Im not willing to just wait around indefinitely for her to make up her mind.
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