It kinda gives me Steve Vai vibes.

Yes, you're right. I usually think of sexuality as a spectrum or perhaps a plot of many dimensions. We all place a little differently on that spectrum with some aligning towards the ends and some closer to the middle.

I don't quite think of myself as bi, but maybe others would. Generally speaking, if I find someone attractive in a striking or interesting way and I want to look at them, that person is very nearly always a woman. I don't consciously think of men in terms of romance or how they're sexually attractive or not.

However, if I were to have sex with a man (something I would like to explore more if I could), at that point I would realize that whether or not I find them attractive IS important to how much I want that to happen or not. So attractiveness in men IS something that I register, even if it happens mostly unaware.

All in all, thinking of men sexually takes conscious effort, but when I do that, I find it appealing. I guess it's a bit like thinking about an exciting sex toy you might wanna try. If me and some guy were the only two people left in the world stranded on a desert island, it's not impossible that I could be satisfied in either a sexual relationship or a romantic and sexual relationship with that other person, provided I found them attractive.

For me to think "wow, that guy's cute" is something that has happened so rarely in my life. Maybe a couple or a few times? Perhaps more, but I tend to forget. It could be from a lack of excercise. I do think I probably like younger guys and not macho men, so I have a vague preference :laughing:

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Sounds somewhat relatable :)

Ok yeah, it doesn't really sound like you're bi, maybe bi-curious at most. ;) Your attitude towards sex with men sounds a little like mine towards women, but my conclusion is that while I could probably have sex with women, it would almost certainly be bad sex. If you're not ogling something with desire, best not to go down that route, otherwise you'd just be putting your dick in a hole. I figure. Sex should be mostly about enjoying each others' bodies and desire isn't really something anyone should consciously work on.

Bottom line, if you're not fantasizing about dick, it's not for you. :D

What if you've been drinking tequila?

I don't mind poking my dick in a hole. I think people should free themselves of unfounded prejudice and seek out pleasure in various ways. As long as your actions are lawful, you're up front with your intentions and honest about who you are and cause more pleasure than pain, you should generally be in the clear as far as I'm concerned :)

As for sex between men, it seems natural to me. Although men and women are generally like venn diagrams in that there's a lot of overlap, there is a general trend in sexuality where men and women are a little out of sync. For one thing, men tend to want more (extremely common guy-complaint in hetero relationships). Guys tend to find it easier to detach sex from emotion and are generally very capable of enjoying butt stuff, being equipped with prostate glands that seem to love that for some reason. So in some ways, guys seem better suited as sexual partners for other men than for women. Not true in every case, of course.

The idea that sex is for reproduction is of course antiquated. Rather, in many social animals (mammals in particular), sex seems to be also or even more often for social bonding / glueing, also between same-sex individuals.

Hence, I think that a population of humans healthily expressing their nature would feature a lot more of men on men sexuality. I just feel like I'm probably a person with a fairly average / standard desires who's open minded, perhaps a little gluttonous. But bi-curious is probably a good description (have some experience, would like more).


I'm a teetotal :laughing: Also I never particularly enjoyed drunken sex. If I was drinking with a hot chick (or chack), I would rather pick her brains than her bean.

i like gay sex i just don't have any desire to get involved in a real relationship or do couple type ****. I don't feel that way towards guys and i don't feel that way towards the majority of women. Sexual attraction is a casual thing that doesn't mean romantic interest.

I'm not at all bicurious or confused though trust me i know what i like.

Me and jwb.. blowing dicks and breaking hearts <3

I hope jwb likes a pickle with cold fish because I see a Scandinavian aromantic comedy writing itself here

Luckily he likes both.

My joke but worse

Steph Yun Fat

No Yun-Fat because yun Chow Chow Chow

How Yun Sat when Sow Yun Fat?

This thread isn't exactly what it sounds like it would be.

Shut up, queer

Exactly.

Like.. a corner where two walls meet, but then it's like at an odd angle or with some odd shape.

You know, like the unearthly, dimension breaking geometry from Lovecraft's Dreams in the Witch House.

But with dick sucking.

Always a guaranteed improvement

We can only hope.

Ah I remember when we had a discussion about this here on mb. Acronyms, truly hilarious :rolleyes:

didn't know Elon had another kid

...and another one here.

This is probably as good a moment as any to comment that I have always felt somewhat isolated in the gay community, being a gay man whose musical tastes seem very much at odds with those of most of the LGBT community. Gay males seem to be supposed to love (a) musicals (the old time sort, not rock musicals); (b) anything with a danceable beat, irrespective of how monotonous; (c) anything bright and poppy in the Eurovision style, no matter how banal the tune or how vacuous the lyrics, as long as it's "life-affirming". I get bored with all that VERY quickly.

Now I like some disco tunes, I like some songs from musicals, and I like ABBA, but the existence of exceptions does not change my general dislike for most of the music that forms part of "gay culture". My suspicion is that it's a tribal thing. Saying "Yay, I love Kylie too" gets you accepted as part of the tribe.

Talk to most gay men about progressive rock, or indeed just about anything with drums and guitars, and you get a blank look. Again, this is a generalisation, but it's so often true. Also, for some odd reason, most of the artists that gay men hold up as music icons seem to be female.

The interesting thing is that least two of my favourite singer/songwriters are gay: Elton John, and George Michael.

One of the properties of an acronym is that it forms a word, or something that could conceivably be a word; it has to at least be pronounceable. When you get to the ridiculous stage where an abbreviation is so messy that it cannot even be remembered without a written prompt, let alone pronounced, I start to think it would be better to just use a catch-all term such as "non-hetero".

Agreed, definitely. It's just that a lot of the ridicule is just kind of dire and homophobic

I'm queer

‘Dear White People’ Showrunner Jaclyn Moore on Why She’s Boycotting Netflix Over Transphobic Dave Chappelle Special (EXCLUSIVE)

Sad to hear this guy is still weirdly obsessed with trans people. I think they were the subject of his jokes for the past couple of specials, and this latest apparently continues the trend. What's really strange is that Netflix keeps pushing them out. Hopefully someone will pull the plug on this guy in the near future. :/

Lol

Wtf they're adding **** to the beginning of the acronym now???

I'm gonna check that Chappelle special out but tbh I'm kinda weary that it's on the trans **** again... It's time to move on before he becomes a one trick pony

What is it then?

Also the irony is that for all the people who whine about edgelord material like Dave .. if they just ignored the first jokes he made about trans in 2017 then it might've ended there. At this point his career is being propped up by the people writing outraged articles about him just as much as it is by his actual fans

You know you can just admit that maybe he has a bad take on trans people. It's not like it's rare or aberrant.

Free thinkers aren't worried about looking bad to libtards.

It's not rare or aberrant and i don't know why you require me to "admit" anything.... I never said anything about him having great takes on trans u just don't seem to realize not everything revolves around having the best takes

But you don't do any kind of analysis about his takes, you just get defensive like he has to not be wrong for the sake of comedy's pride.

What kind of analysis? The **** are you talking about lol

I never said he's right for comedy's sake. It is irrelevant if he's right or wrong.

I thought he was a saviour of comedic traditions because of his insightfully subversive social commentary.

Well i read hyping him up a bit yeah the special wasn't that great but it was pretty funny

As for the legacy of comedy... It's not about Dave saving us or being any sort of martyr it's just that's the standard response to backlash against edgy comedy is to point out that it has always had that element sorta built into it .. that doesn't mean the edgy material is something that i would advocate for seriously....

He does have good social commentary though... The trans bit was far from his best material too it just got the most attention cause it's the topic of the decade apparently

1. Analysis of how you think his points should be interpreted.

2. If it's irrelevant then why are you sticking up for him every time this issue comes up? Shouldn't you just ignore this cause you don't care?