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OccultHawk
11-25-2020 03:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre
(Post 2146672)
Key word is HELP.
But if you're getting into a romantic relationship treating it like a therapeutic relationship you're not only dooming the romantic relationship but you're probably doing more harm than help to both parties.
Fair enough.
OccultHawk
11-25-2020 03:40 PM
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true. claiming to do the healing is toxic and narcissistic though
OK but if you’ve been a rock for a 20 year marriage then you probably do deserve a pat on the back. Both members.
Like I’m saying if you just say “nope damaged goods” you might be missing out on something beautiful and yes goddamnit healing
WWWP
11-25-2020 03:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Marie Monday
(Post 2146673)
yiiikes my scary ex-stepdad used to play this game with me when I was young where he pretended I was a kitten in need of rescue when I climbed into the tree in the garden
Ewwww what?! Yikes is right.
I was just quoting Ani Difranco lyrics, the first verse is - I am not a pretty girl / That is not what I do / I ain't no damsel in distress / And I don't need to be rescued / So put me down, punk / Wouldn't you prefer a maiden fair? / Isn't there a kitten stuck up a tree somewhere?
But now I'm imagining baby Marie reciting the last verse from her tree perch at her creepy step-creep - What if there are no damsels in distress? / What if I knew that, and I called your bluff? / Don't you think every kitten figures out how to get down / Whether or not you ever show up?
The Batlord
11-25-2020 04:03 PM
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Originally Posted by Marie Monday
(Post 2146673)
yiiikes my scary ex-stepdad used to play this game with me when I was young where he pretended I was a kitten in need of rescue when I climbed into the tree in the garden
I'd just be like, "I'm not fucking you, Mark, and I know it was you who stole my underwear."
OccultHawk
11-25-2020 04:05 PM
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Originally Posted by The Batlord
(Post 2146682)
I'd just be like, "I'm not fucking you, Mark, and I know it was you who stole my underwear."
If only we could go back and relive our childhoods with our adult minds.
ribbons
11-25-2020 04:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Marie Monday
(Post 2146673)
yiiikes my scary ex-stepdad used to play this game with me when I was young where he pretended I was a kitten in need of rescue when I climbed into the tree in the garden
As Steph said, EWWWWWWW!!! All I can say is, I'm glad he's your EX-stepdad now. So sorry you had to deal with the fears and mind games.
The Batlord
11-25-2020 04:13 PM
I'd be six years old rubbing my soft peepee watching bondage sybian porn listening to Magrudergrind and an adult walks in and ****s themselves.
Marie Monday
11-25-2020 04:16 PM
*grooves to acoustic semi-riot grrrl Ani DiFranco song*
well to be fair to my ex-stepdad he wasn't sexually inappropriate towards me, this was just one of the many examples of his Valiant Knight complex tendencies. He is a very scary and destructive person though
The Batlord
11-25-2020 04:17 PM
I'd still say it.
jwb
11-25-2020 10:56 PM
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Originally Posted by WWWP
(Post 2146628)
PSA: Unless I say specifically that I am needing advice (which I won't ever do, I don't trust any of you) don't assume that when I pose questions or share things from my experience that I am having trouble with something, or that I'm asking for your input on my relationships, or that I have some issue that you're going to be the one to solve lol. I was just asking for different perspectives I DON'T NEED YOUR ADVICE yall constantly read me wrong anyway.
lol this is kinda a bizarre thing to say tbh
You pose questions but don't want people to answer them?
