Plankton

Thats exactly what I meant. You get me.

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Carpe Mortem

Haha alrighty man was just confused if I was part of an inside joke I forgot about and ol stoner brain was peeking through.

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Scarlett O'Hara

I absolutely agree with you. As Grogsy said it's a unfair burden on you, especially because it's your mother. The mother-daughter boundaries are blurred because of the BPD I imagine. I would definitely consult a doctor, don't feel bad for not doing so sooner. It's hard to know sometimes what someone is going through or what they mentally aren't coping with. You're doing the right thing. Also, if you don't like the doctor or don't trust them, get a second opinion. I would be worried too about the carer. You just don't know what he could be doing there. But honey it's up to you, do you think you might put her in a safer environment like a residential home? The journey won't be easy, but like I've said before I'm here if you want to chat. I am no expert but have battled mental illnesses myself. Sending my love.

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Rjinn

She's in government housing at the moment with all the equipment she needs. But she refuses to see any doctor. I've even suggested to get a doctor out to her place but she keeps refusing. I understand that it's her decision in the end, however the last time I saw and spoke to her she looked and sounded very weak and do not feel she is safe.

I will consult the doctor on Thursday, but if they say they can't see her without her permission because she's not in any immediate danger then... I won't know what to do. I guess I'll just focus on consulting the doctor now and then worry about my next move after.

Thanks Vanilla for being really supportive.

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Scarlett O'Hara

Okay well that's good that she is in the right place. Is she on any medication? Hopefully the doctor will be helpful. I would mention your concern about her safety because that might move things along a little more. No problem bb, I'm here if you ever need a chat! xxx

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Rjinn

Not on any medication. She denied the diagnosis completely a few years ago I guess because she finds the idea of having a mental disorder insulting, and is very sensitive about it. I don't think it's a good idea to bring it up because of potentially putting her through another distressful episode.

It's pretty clear now that a doctor should really handle this. But I also think developing strategies for conversation might help.

Has anyone else supported someone with BPD or something similar? I'd like to hear how you handle it if so...

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ladyislingering

Today I had an encounter with a new level of stupidity. One I didn't want to think was possible, but I knew it would surface eventually.

Our store offers point* cards; for every $5 you spend or every donation, you get a point. 15 points gets you 30% off your next purchase. Well, our most recent point card expired about a week ago. No more points to accrue, and full cards expired just yesterday.

*that's not the actual terminology but it's not your business

Enter Tard-O-Matic:

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Scarlett O'Hara

I really don't like "kill yourself" gifs.

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ladyislingering

I'll admit that probably wasn't the best choice and might have triggered/struck a raw nerve of someone I care about.

I'll fix it.

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djchameleon

that's a stupid policy though.

Why would you have one quarterly and then end it early for whatever numbers they need and have a gap in the period where people can't earn points.

The points card/system is stupid and I agree with that customer.

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Fame, fortune, power, titties. People say these are the most crucial things in life, but you can have a pocket full o' gold and it doesn't mean sh*t if you don't have someone to share that gold with. Seems simple. Yet it's an important lesson to learn. Even lone wolves run in packs sometimes.